Words from COPE President and Founder,

Lillian Julien

 

Dear COPE Families,

As we look forward to warmer temperatures of spring, we anticipate the coming holidays.

No matter how many years have passed, holidays bring up those we are missing and how much they’re missed.

From year to year it changes since it’s no longer a traditional holiday get together.

Once I planned ahead with hopes of everyone being together.

Now with so many missing, I’m no longer quick to make my plans.

Now I find myself letting go.

My daughter recently related a simple takeaway from a workshop she attended. If we focus on the “What IF” it takes us away from the “What IS.”

It’s easy to look back and imagine “What if… “

It’s natural to look forward and anticipate “What if I do this?” or ”What if I do that?”

It’s more challenging to stay with “What IS” and explore your options.

You can ask yourself, Who do you want to be with? What feels safe?

You might go to a support meeting. Hear what others are doing. Share tools.

Keep in mind that everyone is different.

Keep the focus on what feels right for you.

Check in with yourself and go with the flow.

And make the best of what IS, embracing the love that still surrounds you.

Lilly

COPE President and Founder

lilly@copefoundation.com

 

 

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COPE Healing Tip of the Month

From COPE Clinical Director Amy Olshever, PhD, LCSW

 

 

Springtime Grief

 

How do you feel when you see the purple and yellow of new crocuses? Or at the arrival of the first robin? The beginning of spring might make you feel better and feel new hope. And when we are grieving, feeling better and hopeful may also make us feel as if we are betraying the memory of our lost loved one. It is normal to experience new heightened grief or anxiety related to your grief in spring, just as it is in other seasons of the year. Although warmer, sunnier months can be nurturing and inspire new hopefulness, grief does not suddenly go away just because seasons change.

Spring generally brings a sudden flurry of change and things begin to move faster all around us. There is rebirth and renewal in nature as flowers and trees bloom and everything turns green again, and people quickly begin to flock to their favorite warm-weather activities. Try to take time to sit down and make some plans that can nurture you and help you cope with your losses and grief.

A helpful way to respond to anxiousness about spring and summer is to remind yourself about those things that YOU are in control of. Warmer months offer other opportunities for nurturing activities such as walking in nature, planting gardens, photography, family gatherings, stargazing, and many other things. When you are outside, take a moment to inhale and then to exhale. To be in control of the one moment you have control over. And give yourself permission to experience the warmth of spring on your face and in your heart.

 

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April COPE Calendar of Events 

 

 

April Workshops and Events:

2             Integrative Healing Workshop  – East Meadow (COPE House 11:00am –

               12:30pm)  

3             Camp Erin & COPE Sibling Bowling Bowl-a-thon – NYC (Frames Bowling

               Lounge 7:00pm – 9:30pm)

22          Saturday: Daytime Writing Workshop  – East Meadow (COPE House

               2:00pm – 3:30pm)  

 

April Support Groups:

3            Monday: South Shore Parent Support Group – Merrick (Merrick Jewish

              Center, 7pm)

3            Monday Night Parent Support Group for Parents New to COPE – East

              Meadow(COPE House, 7pm)

4           Tuesday: DAYTIME Parent Support Group – East Meadow (COPE

             House, 1pm)

4           Tuesday:  Grandparent Support Group – East Meadow (COPE House,

              6:30 pm)

5           Wednesday:  Western Suffolk County Parent Support Group – Dix Hills

              Chai Center, 7pm)

6, 13    Thursday: Teen Support Group – East Meadow (COPE House, 7:30pm)

14         Friday:  New York City Adult Sibling Group – (DASHA® Flagship, The

             Galleria, 115 East 57th Street, Suite 520, New York, NY, 10022, 6:15 pm-

              7:45 pm)   

17         Monday: Parent Support Group Meeting – East Meadow (COPE

            House, 7:30pm)

13        Thursday: North Shore Parent Support Group for Established Parents –

            Syosset (Syosset Public Library, 7pm)

19       Wednesday: DAYTIME Parent Support Group – East Meadow (COPE House,

             1pm)

20       Thursday: North Shore Parent Support Group for Parents New to COPE –

            Jericho (Jericho Public Library, 7pm)

20,27  Thursday: Spring Session Teen Support Group – East Meadow (COPE

             House, 7:30pm)

25        Tuesday: Long Island Adult Sibling Group – East Meadow (COPE House,

             7pm)

28        Friday: Central Suffolk County Parent Support Group – Ronkonkoma

             (United Methodist Church, 7pm)

 

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Please Support our Organization

Please help COPE continue to provide support by making a donation.  Any donation can be made in tribute to a particular child or loved one.  To donate on line, please click here to visit our donation page www.copefoundation.org,  or you can send in a check to COPE at PO Box 1251 Melville, NY 11747.

 

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Poem

 

To honor you, I get up everyday and take a breath.

And start another day without you in it.

To honor you, I laugh and love with those who knew your smile

And the way your eyes twinkled with mischief and secret knowledge.

To honor you, I take the time to appreciate everyone I love,

I know now there is no guarantee of days or hours spent in their presence.

To honor you, I listen to music you would have liked,

And sing at the top of my lungs, with the windows rolled down.

To honor you, I take chances, say what I feel, hold nothing back,

Risk making a fool of myself, dance every dance.

You were my light, my heart, my gift of love, from the very highest source.

So everyday, I vow to make a difference, share a smile, live, laugh and love.

Now I live for us both, so all I do, I do to honor you.

 

Lovingly reprinted from the Bereaved Parents website, and their publication,  A JOURNEY TOGETHER

 

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COPE Book Corner

 

Shattered: Surviving the Loss of a Child

By Gary Roe

Unthinkable. Unbelievable. Heartbreaking.

Whatever words we choose, they all fall far short of the reality.

 

The loss of a child is a terrible thing. How do we survive this? Can we?

Shattered: Surviving the Loss of a Child was written to help.

Bestselling author, hospice chaplain, and grief specialist Gary Roe uses his three decades of experience interacting with grieving parents to give us this heartfelt, easy-to-read, and intensely practical book. In Shattered, Roe walks the reader through the powerful impact a child’s death can have – emotionally, mentally, physically, relationally, and spiritually.

– Intense, unpredictable emotions can hijack us at a moment’s notice.

– Our minds spin. We forget things. It feels like we’re going crazy.

– Our bodies get hit. Our health can be impacted.

– Our souls feel crushed, shaking our faith and what we think we believe.

– Our relationships change. A deep loneliness of the heart can set in.

– Our plans and dreams are shattered. We’re now in uncharted territory.

Yes, the loss of a child affects everything.

In Shattered, you will discover how to…

– Manage the massive changes that are occurring in your life

– Take care of yourself during this process

– Honor your child with your grief

– Love those around you, even with a broken heart

– Live life as well as possible while in the midst of great pain

– Make your child’s life count in deep and powerful ways

Shattered is not a magic pill. The death of a child cannot be fixed. But comfort, compassion, guidance, and hope can be found in these pages.

We will never be the same, but we can survive. And to some degree, we can heal. Shattered can help.

 

If you have a book to recommend which you think will help our families along their path of healing, please email info@copefoundation.com.

 

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COPE and Centering Corporation

COPE has partnered with the Centering Corporation to provide you with easy access to grief resources through our website. Centering Corporation is a non-profit organization dedicated to providing education and resources for the bereaved.  With resources on adult grief, death of a child, infant loss, children’s grief, as well as a host of grief-related products, Centering Corporation’s goal is, “We give you support.  We give you information.  We give you hope.”

 

You can easily access Centering Corporations vast array of resource from the home page of COPE’s website, the left or top tool bar where is says, “Grief Resource Center” or by clicking here.

 

When checking out on the Centering Corporation’s website, COPE hopes that you will enter the coupon code “COPE” where it asks for “Input Coupon or Promotional Code”. Doing so will enable 10% of your purchases to be directed back to COPE to help fund the grief support programs we offer parents, siblings and families living with the loss of a child.  COPE thanks you for your support.

 

If you have a book to recommend which you think will help our families along their path of healing, please email info@copefoundation.com

 

 

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Birthdays and Passings

In the month of April, we remember the following loved ones who were taken from us before their time:

 

1    Linda Kerman (1967, birthday), sister of Lisa Kerman

      Paul Jacobson (1969, birthday), son of Diane Parini

      Luke Petro (1993, birthday), brother of Kristina Petro

      Debbie Fink (2015, passing), sister of Jessica Fink

      Sharon Lotter (2012, passing), daughter of Fran & Bill Monahan

      Beth Luvman (2009, passing), daughter of Renee Luvman

      Nathan Nater (1989, birthday), son of Vera Webber

 

2    Sharon Kahn (2009, passing), daughter of Susan Kahn

      Sharon Lotter (1967, birthday) daughter of Fran & Bill Monahan

      Michael Trotta (2014, passing), son of Jaclyn & Michael Trotta

 

3    Zachary Fishfein (2016, passing), son of Eileen Fishfein

      Terrence R. Joseph (2016, passing), son of Georgia Grant

      Robert Stevenson (2013, passing), son of Frances Miller

      Stephanie Rivera (2015, passing), sister of Brittney Rivera

      Kyra Franchetti (2014, passing), daughter of Jacqueline Franchetti   

 

4   David Bleichfeld (1979, birthday), son of Harriet Bleichfeld

      Bonnie Brafman (1973, birthday), daughter of Sandra & Stu Brafman

      Daniel Carroll (1989, birthday), son of Kim Carroll

      Scott Biggart (1985, birthday), son of Jeanne & Kurt Biggart

      Nancy Shark (2011, passing), daughter of Barbara Smart

      Michael (Mikey) Ricatto (2011, passing), son of Laura Failla

      Nicole Nogio (1967, birthday), daughter of Fredda Nogio

      Andre Lamorta (1968, birthday), son of Jean Germain

 

5   Adam Spizz (1978, birthday), son of Marika & Alex Spizz, brother of Jack & Kim     

     Karly Meeks (1993, birthday), daughter of Jennifer Stephens

     Allyson Slepian (2011, passing), sister of Shari Slepian

     Eric Britton (1964, birthday), brother of Laurie Britton

     Ryan Dickinson (1987, birthday), son of Donna Liebenow

 

6  Timmy Carr (1954, birthday), son of Jackie Carr

     Bari Swedlow (2009, passing), daughter of Sheila & Dick Swedlow, sister of Lori & Amy

     Stephen Marano (2011, passing), son of Vincent Marano

     Robert Stevenson (1988, birthday), son of Francis Miller

     John Palmiotto (1986, birthday)), son of Tina Palmiotto

     Michael Bradley (2015, passing), son of Kathleen Dwyer

     Howie Kelman (2015, passing), son of Bara Kelman

 

7   William H. Long (1986, birthday), brother of Jen Gaynor

     Hope Freed (2012, passing), daughter of Harriet Shurgan

     Brittany Brophy (2013, passing), daughter of Edward Brophy

     Rutger Osteroth (1939, birthday), father of Karen Flyer

     Amir Prizant (1976, birthday), brother of Ayelet Prizant

    William H. Long (1986, birthday), brother of Jen Gaynor

 

8  Boruch Teldon (1978, birthday), son of Chaya & Rabbi Tuvia Teldon

               [Hebrew date-1st of Nisan-2 weeks before Pesach]

     Douglas Ciullo (1985, birthday), son of Eileen Simone

     Steven Montes (1995, passing), son of Lucy & Earnie Montes

     Adam Cohen (2009, passing), son of Marilyn Cohen

     Robin Smith (birthday), daughter of Dolores Long

     Kaitlyn Dougherty (1991, birthday), daughter of Denise Dougherty

 

9   Anna Finkelstein (1987, birthday), sister of Katherine Finkelstein

     Dana Solomon (1953, birthday), son of Giovannina Leto

     Monica Valencia (2012, passing), sister of Julianna Valencia

     Rob Weinstein (2010, passing), son of Phylis Weinstein

 

10 Matthew Lichten (1991, birthday), son of Eric Lichten

     Brian Hom (2011, passing), son of Karen & Jim Hom

     Bryan Lohr (2011, passing), son of Barbara Lohr

     Michael Litchford (1973, birthday), brother of Mollie Vigardt

     Mary Cardone (2012, passing), sister of Emily Cardone

     Howie Robinson (Passing), son of Jeff & Harriet Robinson and brother of Joni Robinson

      Helfman

    Aaron Gardner (2010, passing), son of Sarah Gardner

 

11 Kenneth Ditzel (2008, passing), son of Elaine Ditzel

     Judy DeMichael (2012, passing), daughter of Maryann DeMichael

     Jenna Baron (2013 passing), daughter of Jean Pagliughi

     Isaiah Mitchell (2016, passing), Vivonne Mitchell

     Kevin Michael Warren, Jr, (2012, passing), son of Alissa Sorgenfrei

 

 

12 Allison Morales (1971, birthday), daughter of Marsha Calderon

     Randie Delmont (1966, birthday), daughter of Joel and Shelley Switko

     Troup Risser (1984, birthday), son of Wendy Holden

     Saida Anselma Ann Mendoza (2006, birthday), daughter of April Mendoza

 

13 Courtney O’Bryan (1993, birthday), daughter of Diane & Bill O’Bryan

     Jim Connelly (birthday), father of Samantha Connelly

     Spencer Weiss (1993, birthday), son of Pam & Robert Weiss

 

14Jon Anselmo (2010, passing), son of Joanne Anselmo

     Kenneth Tyler (1995, birthday), son of Annie Tyler

     Brandon Dennis (1976, birthday), son of Michael Dennis

     Tony Ferrante (1980, birthday), son of Sandy Ferrante

     Laura Lee Flynn (2015, passing), daughter of Lee Fynn

     Larry Marcus (1983,passing), son of Sandy Wolfson and brother of Ken Marcus

 

15 Michael McNamara (1971, birthday), son of Robert & Marie McNamara

     Tricia Neitzel (2009, passing), daughter of Ralph & Pat Siniscalchi

     William Grieco (1994, birthday), son of Chris Grieco and brother of Jenna Rizzo

     Spencer Reis (2012, passing), son of Jeff & Anita Reis, brother of Ryan & Josh Reis

     Jacqueline Groody (2014, passing), daughter of Tammy Groody

     Annie Zygone (1961, birthday), daughter of Claire Maddox

     Johnny Lazar (1989, birthday), grandson of Adrian Lazar

 

16Douglas Webster (1957, birthday), son of Margery Webster

 

17 Todd Wirtshafter (2003, passing), brother of Lisa Robbins

     Jessica Lynn Nolan (2009, passing), daughter of Janet & Tom Nolan

     Tysean Thomas (1991, birthday), son of Alma Thomas

     Nikki Kontor (1993, birthday), daughter of Joann Lombardi

     Taylor Cavaliere (2011, passing), daughter of Dale & Ray Cavaliere, sister of Andrea, Jillian &

       Ray Cavaliere

      Paul Peter Regan (2012, passing), son of Maryanne Campbell

      Amanda Henderson (1987, birthday), daughter of Denise Henderson, sister of

        Jeanna Henderson

      Mary Quinn (2015, passing), Daughter of Kathleen & Thomas Quinn

 

18 Bari Swedlow (1968, birthday), daughter of Sheila Swedlow & Dick Swedlow, sister of Lori &

      Amy

     Andrew Droskoski (2010, passing), brother of James Droskoski

     Karina Haas-Linde (2013, passing), daughter of Eileen Haas-Linde

     Christopher Shea (2016, passing), son of Katie Shea

     Andre Lamorta (2011,passing), son of Jean Germain

 

19Nicholas Shaw (2008, passing), son of Carol Shaw

     Jon Anselmo (1987, birthday), son of Joanne Anselmo

     Adam Oberlander (1977, birthday), son of Carol & Norman Oberlander

     Michael Rizzi (2014, passing), son of Marisa Rizzi

 

20Harold Goodman (2005, passing), brother of Joanne Goodman

     Melissa McGeehan (2011, passing), daughter of Joyce McGeehan

     Richard Pusateri (2012, passing), brother of Steven Pusateri and Jennifer Mirabelli

     Jason Micheline (1971, birthday), son of Stephanie Micheline

     Michael Zombeck (2006, passing), brother of Ricci Zombeck

     Javiera Pagan (2015, passing), daughter of Selva Herrara-Pagan

 

21 Tom Shavel (1972, birthday), son of Janet Shavel, brother of Joe Shavel

     Pamela Ramoutar (2013, passing), sister of Christina Ramoutar

 

22 Jeffrey Lener (1960, birthday), son of Sherwin Lener, brother of Susan Lener

      Michael Liebowitz (1983, birthday), brother of Danielle Liebowitz

 

 

23 David Cooperman (1975, birthday), son of Donna Cooperman, brother of Lindsay

       Cooperman Kaufman

      Eric Essman (1964, birthday), son of Sage Essman

      Benjamin Ziegelbaum (2006, passing), son of Amy Ziegelbaum

      Matthew Harris (2011, passing), son of Robie & Louis Harris

      Victoria Riccardi (2011, passing), daughter of Judy Riccardi

      Paul Marchese (2016, passing), son of Laura Verardi

 

24 Scott Magid (1969, birthday), son of Helaine & Monte Magid

      Joanna Falbo (2005, passing), sister of Juliana Falbo

 

 25 NichJolas Shaw (1981, birthday), son of Carol Shaw

       James Geros (2011, passing), son of Dianne Geros

       John Dougherty (2012, passing), son of Maryann Kilgannon

       Seena Liff (1954, birthday), daughter of Eleanor Liff

       Daniel Gordon (1988, birthday), son of Nancy Shapiro

      Marvin Birnbaum (1949, birthday), brother of Elaine Birnbaum

      Woody Zalman (1989, birthday), son of Debra Berley

 

26 Sean Russo (1996, passing), son of Genia Salitra-Belkin, brother of Shannon Russo Pollack

      Jaryd Bartlette (1993, birthday), son of Toni Bartlette

      Adam Bruckner (1982, birthday), son of Paula Bruckner

      Ashlee Rae Wolk (1984, birthday), sister of Danielle Bonfanti

      Thomas Sutton (2014, passing), son of Betty & Nick Conides

      Alanna Ambrosio (1991, birthday), daughter of Arlene Ambrosio, sister of Nicole Ambrosio

      Chava Swerdlik (1984, birthday), daughter of Hadassah Swerdlik

 

27 Shana Kay (1986, birthday), daughter of Jane & Randy Kay

      Marsha Lazar (passing), daughter of Adrian Lazar

      James Zajicek (2013, passing), son of Anna Zajicek

 

28 Lyla Stern (1993, birthday), daughter of Howard & Donna Stern

      Jodie Niehoff (2012, passing), daughter of Ruth Rubin

      Fedele Amling (1971, birthday), son of Linda Leone

      Matthew Feit (2013, pasing), son of Jeffrey Feit

 

29 Kenneth Michael Lacks (1964, birthday), son of Gail Lacks

      Ryan Rendleman (2008, passing), son of Teresa Rendleman

      Jonathan (Yani) Polansky (1994, birthday), son of Denise & Cory Polansky

      Chris Pelliccia (2014, passing), son of Arlene Darcy

      Aidan Seeger (2012, passing), son of Elisa Seeger

      Harrison Horowitz (1988, birthday), son of Susan Weiss-Horowitz

      Michael Gonzalez (1993, birthday), son of Alberto Gonzalez

 

 

30 Samantha Schwartz (2006, passing), daughter of Sheila Schwartz

      Jessica Lynn Nolan (1986, birthday), daughter of Janet & Tom Nolan

      Sabrina Garfield (2010, passing), daughter of Jugnu Garfield and George Garfield

      Benjamin Weinblad (2011, passing), son of Ann Weinblad

 

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Parent Column

April 2017

 

My older son, Larry Marcus was killed in an auto accident at college on 4-14-83 at the age of 23 yrs. It happened a few months before he was to get his degree from the Univ. of Georgia. His birthday is Sept 10, 1959. He is gone more years than I want to remember.

 

Every year at his birthday and the anniv. of his death I send emails to his many friends and a few of his professors that I still have contact with. As the years get longer I hear from less and less of the friends. People’s li ves change, they move forward with their lives, they are busy with their own lives.

 

I have a piano in Temple Beth David, Commack, N.Y. in honor of Larry, who was a talented musician. I found out a number of years ago when Larry started college at the University of Georgia , he and others formed a band. They played at school functions and social causes on campus and they called themselves “The Little Tigers”. They never made it big. However, in the house next door to them another group did make it big, and very, very famous. It is R.E.M. and they would invite Larry to join them sometimes and play the keyboard with them. Larry never told me this. Several of his group of highly, intellectual group members informed me of this many years ago.  When I heard that the group was breaking up I wrote to Michael Stipes and introduced myself and asked if he had any music with Larry playing with them. He remembered my son but had his secretary write back that he was sorry that he had nothing to share with me.

 

About a month ago I was in a store that sells new and used CD, DVD, Cassette, etc. and saw behind the counter a R.E.M. new CD. I started talking to the owner and told him the above story. He quietly went on his computer and put Larry’s name in and showed me that his name was mentioned in a book some author wrote about R.E.M. a few years ago.

 

Larry had great potential to be anything in this world, had time permitted  him to do so. His professors all agree with what I just said. However, it was not meant to be. His major was Comparative Literature and a minor in Russian. One of his professors always writes me and tells me how much she admires what I do to keep Larry’s memory alive. As long as I am able, I will continue to do so.

 

They say time is a healer but my heart still breaks without Larry in my life. I was cheated out of watching my son growing up, getting married, and having a family and grandchildren. My son, Ken, was cheated out of growing up and having a relationship with his older brother. Ken is now 51 years old, lives in Oakland, Calif. and married to Laura. I have 2 beautiful granddaughters, Lyla, named for Larry and Talia, named for 1 of Laura’s brothers.  But there is always a hole in my heart for Larry, and always will be. I miss him so and think about him each and every day.

 

I am thankful for the years I had him in my life but they were cut short too soon.  Ken and I just put 2 bricks in the labyrinth at Eisenhower Park to go to for comfort and remembrance.

The bricks read:

Larry Marcus

Alas he can not sing. But

died with his music in him

 

I had a tree and plaque put on the campus of UGA and many of us got together to celebrate “Larry’s life”. The first time we did the planting friends came from all over and many had not seen each other since graduation.

 

The love of his life, Mig and I still talk. She married, has 2 children that have graduated college, but still she tells me how she still has a hole in her heart for Larry.  The plaque in front of the tree at Reed Hall on the campus of U. of Georgia reads:

“His quest for knowledge never ceased”.

 

With great love,

Sandy Wolfson

 

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COPE Sibling Column

April 2017

 

Please share with us your writings about your sibling.  Email info@copefoundation.com for more information.

  

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COPE News

 

If anyone has any news to share with the group or a poem or inspirational story (to potentially be included in a future newsletter if you wish), please email info@copefoundation.com.

 

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Camp Erin® New York City – COPE Foundation

COPE’s Bereavement Camp for Children Ages 6 – 17 

August 25 – 27, 2017

 

Camp Erin® NYC – COPE Sibling Bowling Event

April 3, 7-9:30 PM at Frames Bowling NYC

Hi everyone,

 

Happy Spring! That means there is only one more season to go and it’s summer and Camp Erin time.

 

Camper applications are starting to come in regularly and I am preparing to interview new staff shortly. All systems go for another successful camp experience.

 

If you could not attend the COPE bowling event in March, there is still time to join in and support the Camp Erin NYC and COPE Sibling bowling event April 3, 7-9:30 PM at Frames Bowling NYC .  We are halfway to our goal!

 

Contact me if you would like to bowl… afuchs@copefoundation.com    COME ON, IT’S FUN!!!!!!    Our teaching percussionist will be there to demonstrate a little of what he does with our campers. I have 60 drum sticks for participants!!  

 

Please consider supporting our event and enabling more children to attend camp!   

 

https://www.razoo.com/team/2017-Camp-Erin-Nyc-And-Cope-Sibling-Bowl-A-Thon scroll down to Ann Fuchs Turkey Bowlers!

Be the reason someone smiles today!

 

Best,

Ann

 

For more information on Camp Erin, please email COPE-Camp Erin New York City Camp Director Ann Fuchs at afuchs@copefoundation.com or 914-552-6919.

 

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COPE Golf Outing 2017

Monday, May 22nd

COPE’s 11th Annual Golf Outing Honors Karen Flyer, Former Executive Director, COPE Parents Jane & Jon Bell, and Dr. Amy Gross, Founding Clinical Director of Camp Erin NYC, Monday, May 22, 2017 at the Muttontown Club in East Norwich, NY

Please REGISTER. Sponsorship opportunities are now open.

The COPE Golf Outing is a great opportunity for individuals, organizations and COPE families to support our mission and honor your child, sibling or loved one, as well as our Honorees.

Monies raised from the event will fund COPE’s programming: support groups, workshops, and Camp Erin® NYC (August 25-27, 2017).

If you wish to become an Individual or Corporate Sponsor, take a Tee Sign, or place an Ad in our JOURNAL, click here.

If you have any questions about registration and sponsorship opportunities, please contact Lynda Rice, COPE Administrative Director (lynda@copefoundation.com)

If you would like to volunteer on the day of the outing, contact Lynda.

Memorial opportunities are available to honor your child, sibling, or loved one with a tee sign.

 

How You Can Help:

  • RAFFLE: Secure raffle and silent auction items (contact Lynda for outreach letter and forms). DUE MAY 1st.
  • VOLUNTEER to work at the Golf Outing (shifts available from 9am-9pm).
  • PLAY GOLF
  • ATTEND OUR COCKTAIL HOUR & DINNER to celebrate our Honorees.
  • BUY RAFFLE TICKETS for the pre-event raffle. (3 for $25, 7 for $50 or 15 for $100). Chinese Auction at the event.
  • DONATE: Make a general donation to COPE (stock transfers are an option).
  • Encourage friends and family to attend, support or donate to the event.

This year’s Pre-Raffle Prizes:

  • 1st Prize: Apple Watch Series 2 ($399 value)
  • 2nd Prize: Samsung 32inch LED TV ($169 value)
  • 3nd Prize: Amazon Kindle Fire with 8 inch display ($119 value)

 

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COPE Labyrinth

 

COPE is now accepting memorial brick and bench orders for our next installation (specific date to be announced).

Memorial bricks are $200 and can include up to

3 lines of engraving, 14 characters per line.

A worksheet is available to help you with your character spacing.

 

To place a brick order, please print this form & mail with a check to:

COPE

PO Box 1251

Melville, NY 11747

 

Should you have any questions, please contact Lynda at Lynda@copefoundation.com.

 

About COPE Labyrinth:

COPE Foundation now has a permanent memorial labyrinth in Eisenhower Park’s Memorial Plaza, with bricks and benches dedicated to our children, siblings, and loved ones.

The labyrinth is an ancient symbolic path with healing and spiritual significance. It has been used within many cultures and spiritual traditions throughout the world.

For many, labyrinths represent life’s journey or spiritual pilgrimage.

Walking the labyrinth often produces a calming, centering feeling. This alternating balancing motion can quiet one’s body, mind and spirit, often inducing a receptive state for meditation and contemplation in the center of the labyrinth.

 

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COPE Monday Night Shore Parent Support Group

Merrick Jewish Center

Monday, April 3rd at 7:00 p.m. SHARP

Join COPE and social worker Judy Hasnas for our South Shore Parent Support Group meeting on Monday, April 3rd at 7:00-8:30 p.m. SHARP at the Merrick Jewish Center (in the LIBRARY) which is located at 225 Fox Boulevard  Merrick, NY.  This group meets one Monday evening of the month at this time.  Judy Hasnas, LCSW, BCD, has a private practice in Bellmore, New York, and facilitated bereavement groups for parents of fire fighters who were killed on 9/11 as part of the Counseling Service Unit, FDNY.  She also worked as an independent contractor at the Steinway Child and Family Service of Howard Beach and was a social work coordinator at Bellevue Hospital Center.

 

For more information, please email info@copefoundation.com.

 

 

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COPE Monday Night Parent Support Group for

Parents New to COPE-East Meadow 

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)  

Monday, April 3rd at 7:00 p.m.  SHARP

The Monday night COPE North Shore group for parents NEW TO COPE will meet this month on Monday, April 3rd from 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. This group will be facilitated by Marilyn Kohn, LCSW, and will be held at the COPE House in Eisenhower Park, East Meadow NY at Field 6A.  For directions, please visit our website at www.copefoundation.org.

 

For more information, please email info@copefoundation.com.

 

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Tuesday DAYTIME Parent Support Group

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

Tuesday, April 4th at 1:00 p.m. SHARP

The NEW DAYTIME Parent Support Group which normally meets the first Tuesday of the month at the COPE House at Eisenhower Park (Field 6A) in East Meadow will meet next on Tuesday, April 4th from 1:00– 2:30 p.m.  The group is facilitated by licensed social worker Janet Zimmerman. Janet is currently in private practice as a psychotherapist.  She previously ran bereavement groups for the Mid-Island JCC and has been a social worker for almost 40 years.  For more information or to express your interest, please contact Amy Olshever, COPE Clinical Director, at 516-418-6606.

 

 

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COPE Thursday Night North Shore Parent Support Group for Parents New to COPE – Jericho

Jericho Library

Thursday, April 20th at 7:00 p.m.  SHARP

Parents NEW TO COPE, please join us for our North Shore Parent Support Group meeting on Thursday, April 20th from 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. SHARP at the Jericho Public Library (1 Merry Lane in Jericho).

 

This group, which meets monthly, is facilitated by Marilyn Kohn, LCSW, a licensed social worker with a private practice specializing in bereavement counseling and individual and family therapy. This is for parents NEW TO COPE, as Marilyn’s other Thursday and Monday groups are filled at this time.

 

For more information or to express your interest, please contact COPE Clinical Director Amy Olshever at 516-418-6606.

 

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COPE Monday Night Parent Support Group-East Meadow

COPE House at Eisenhower Park (Field 6A)

Monday, April 17th at 7:30 p.m.  SHARP

The Monday night COPE North Shore group will meet this month on Monday, Apil 17th from 7:30 – 9:00 p.m. This group will be facilitated by Marilyn Kohn, LCSW, and will be held at the COPE House in Eisenhower Park, East Meadow NY at Field 6A.  For directions, please visit our website at www.copefoundation.org.  This group is for parents who have been part of COPE.  New to COPE parents should plan on attending the other Monday night meeting on February 6th.

 

For more information, please email info@copefoundation.com.

 

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Wednesday Night Western Suffolk County Parent Support Group

The Chai Center in Dix Hills

Wednesday, April 5th at 7:00 p.m. SHARP

Please join COPE and social worker Denise Fields for our Parent Support Group in Suffolk County, at the Chai Center in Dix Hills (501 Vanderbilt Parkway).  This group meets next on Wednesday, April 5th from 7:00 – 8:30 p.m.  Denise has a private psychotherapy practice in Dix Hills, specializing in bereavement.  She previously was a consultant to the Huntington School district, and ran bereavement groups for the Family Service League in Huntington.  The group normally meets the second Wednesday evening of every month from 7:00-8:30 p.m.

 

For more information, please email info@copefoundation.com.

 

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Wednesday DAYTIME Parent Support Group – East Meadow-

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

Wednesday, April 19th at 1:00 p.m. SHARP

The NEW DAYTIME Parent Support Group, will meet on the third Wednesday of the month at the COPE House at Eisenhower Park (Field 6A) in East Meadow.  This group will next meet on Wednesday, April 19th from 1:00 – 2:30 p.m.  The group is open to all current members and new members. The group is facilitated by licensed social worker Janet Zimmerman. Janet is currently in private practice as a psychotherapist.  She previously ran bereavement groups for the Mid-Island JCC and has been a social worker for almost 40 years.  For more information or to express your interest, please contact Amy Olshever, COPE Clinical Director, at 516-418-6606.

 

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COPE Thursday Night North Shore Parent Support Group for Established Parents

Syosset Library

Thursday, April 13th at 7:00 p.m. SHARP

Join COPE for our Two-Year Plus North Shore Parent Support Group meeting on Thursday, April 13th at 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. SHARP at the Syosset Public Library (225 So. Oyster Bay Road).

 

COPE will once again be joined by Marilyn Kohn, LCSW, a licensed social worker with a private practice specializing in bereavement counseling and individual and family therapy.  This is a group intended for parents whose loss occurred over two years ago.  Newly bereaved parents should feel free to attend one of COPE’s other support groups.

 

The second group, at the Jericho Public Library in Jericho (1 Merry Lane) is now for parents new to COPE.  This group will next meet on Thursday,April 20th.

 

For more information, please email info@copefoundation.com.

 

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Grandparents Support Group 

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

April 4th, 2017 at 6:30 pm

The Grandparents Support Group is for bereaved parents who have lost adult children with children. This group will meet on Tuesday, April 4th  from 6:30-8:00 p.m. and will be facilitated by Lisa Vitucci. Parents will discuss the dynamics involved dealing with grandchildren and their surviving parent and share their stories and issues they may have in this different family relationship. Suggestions can be made as to how to deal with these issues Lisa has more than ten years’ experience as a bereavement social worker for a hospice agency and is currently the Director of Social Work at ProHEALTH Care Support. Lisa can be reached with any questions at 516-808-5821.

 

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Friday Night Central Suffolk County Parent Support Group-Ronkonkoma

United Methodist Church in Ronkonkoma

Friday, April 28th at 7:00 p.m. SHARP

Please join COPE and social worker Lisa Vitucci for our Central Suffolk County Parent Support Group at the United Methodist Church in Ronkonkoma (792 Hawkins Avenue Lake Grove, NY 11755, 631-588-5856).  This group will meet next on Friday, April 28th at 7:00 – 8:30 p.m.  Lisa has more than ten years’ experience as a bereavement social worker for a hospice agency and is currently the Director of Social Work at ProHEALTH Care Support.  Lisa can be reached with any questions at 516-808-5821. 

 

For more information or to express interest in this group, please email info@copefoundation.com.

 

 

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COPE Teen Grief Support Group (Ages 13-17)

COPE House in East Meadow (Field 6A in Eisenhower Park)

Thursday, April 6th and 13th, 7:30 – 9:00 p.m.

**New Spring Session Begins Thursday April 20th** 

Teens that have lost a sibling, parent, or significant loved one, please join COPE for our teen grief support group. The remaining sessions of our previous group will take place on April 6th and 13th at 7:30pm at the COPE House in Eisenhower Park in East Meadow.  The group is facilitated by Lauren Jukosky, LCSW.  Lauren recently served as a pediatric oncology social worker for the Steven & Alexandra Cohen Children’s Medical Center of New York where she provided supportive counseling and assisted families with understanding medical diagnoses and specialized in end-of-life counseling.  She also was a social worker at the New York Eye & Ear Infirmary in New York, and a group facilitator at the Center for HOPE (where she conducted bereavement support groups for bereaved children).

 

If you are interested in attending the new Spring Session of our COPE Teen Grief Support Group the second Thursday evening of every month at 7:30 p.m. at the COPE House in East Meadow, please express your interest to Clinical Director Amy Olshever at 516-418-6606. 

 

There is no cost to participate in this program. 

 

 

 

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Long Island Adult Sibling Group-East Meadow

COPE House at Eisenhower Park  (Field 6A)

Tuesday, April 25th at 7:00 p.m. 

Please join COPE for our adult sibling group on Long Island on Tuesday, April 25th  from 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. at the COPE House in East Meadow.  For directions, please visit our website at www.copefoundation.org.  The group will be facilitated by licensed social worker Amy Kirschenblatt.  Amy is a social worker at Cohen’s Children’s Medical Center.  Previously, she worked in a prenatal care program at NSHS/LIJ.

 

 For more information, please email info@copefoundation.com.

 

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NYC Parent Support Group

On Hiatus

1177 Ave of Americas (@ 46th st.)

The New York City parent group, facilitated by social worker Bridgette Boucher, which met on the second Tuesday of every month at 1177 Avenue of the Americas at 46th Street floor C-2, Suite 0020 from 7:00-8:30 p.m. is CURRENTLY ON HIATUS awaiting additional interest. If you know of anyone interested in this group, please contact COPE Clinical Director Amy Olshever at amyolshever@copefoundation.com.

 

Bridgette is currently a family therapist working with the Sloan Kettering Cancer Center and has a private practice in New York City. She was previously a therapist for the Ackerman Institute for the Family, treating families dealing with grief, substance abuse, domestic violence, trauma and relationship problems. For more information please contact Bridgette at boucher9175@gmail.com.

 

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NYC Adult Sibling Support Group

DASHA® Flagship, The Galleria, 115 East 57th Street, Suite 520

New York, NY, 10022

Friday, April 14th at 6:15 pm

We are pleased to announce that we will be restarting the NYC Adult sibling group on Friday, April 14th from 6:15 pm to 7:45 pm at DASHA® Flagship, The Galleria, 115 East 57th Street, Suite 520, Manhattan.   

 

The group will be facilitated by one of our own Camp Erin Grief Chiefs, Jonathan Glotzer.  Jonathan has been practicing psychotherapy in the New York City area for over 17 years and is currently a Behavioral Health consultant for a private Human Resource consulting firm. He was also a clinical social work supervisor for both acute psychiatric inpatient and psychiatric emergency room services for Health and Hospitals Corporations (HHC), a NYC network of hospitals. Jonathan holds a B.A. in psychology from Binghamton University and a Master’s of Social Work from Adelphi University. He currently is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in the State of New York and has a private psychotherapy practice in the Chelsea section of NYC providing Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to adults and adolescents.

 

This group will meet monthly on the 2nd Friday of the month.

 

For more information, please email info@copefoundation.com.

 

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COPE  Young Children’s Grief Support Group (Ages 7-12)

On Hiatus

COPE House in East Meadow (Field 6A in Eisenhower Park)

The NEW Children’s Grief Support Group for kids ages 7-12 living with the loss of a loved one is on hiatus due to lack of enrollment. If you are interested in your child joining an 8-week spring group, please contact COPE Clinical Director Amy Olshever at 516-418-6606 or amyolshever@copefoundation.com.

 

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Creative Writing Workshop

COPE House in Eisenhower Park

Saturday, April 22nd at 2:00 p.m. 

Please join COPE and Patty Rossi, published writer, to experience the power of the pen as a source of solace and comfort in the grieving process. These workshops will be devoted to writing and healing. Be part of this artistic venture. Come explore writing as a tool to console and soothe.  The next daytime workshop will be held on Saturday, April 22nd from 2:00-3:30 pm

 

Please RSVP to Patty at pattyed1@verizon.net if you are interested in attending.

 

For more information, email info@copefoundation.com.

 

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Monthly Meditation

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

TBA

The Monthly Meditation Group takes the place of the Spirituality Circle. Monthly Meditations will meet at the COPE House in Eisenhower Park in East Meadow.   Since space is limited please RSVP.

 

COPE hopes that all parents interested in meditation as an integral part of the healing process will attend these monthly get-togethers.  Some months will include guest speakers and healers. If you have any questions, please contact Lilly Julien at ljulien5@gmail.com.

 

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Integrative Healing Workshop Series

COPE House in Eisenhower Park

Sunday April 2nd 11:00am – 12:30pm

 

Please join COPE and Renée Haber, LMSW, for an

Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) Workshop

EFT, also known as Tapping, is an effective technique used to promote acceptance and the release of negative emotions. EFT helps reduce suffering, treat depression, anxiety, grief, trauma or addiction and helps with just about any form of stress including physical pain.

Renée Haber began her commitment to the helping professions more than 20 years ago, as a teacher. Leaving teaching after six years to raise a family, Renée rededicated herself to the service of others by earning her MSW at Adelphi. She is now a Psychotherapist in private practice in Merrick. In her practice, Renée blends traditional talk therapy, the Emotional Freedom Technique, Guided Meditation and Sand Tray Therapy enabling her clients to access inner wisdom, experience breakthroughs, reduce negative emotions, and find peace.

PLEASE RSVP to amyolshever@copefoundation.com

 

If you have any questions call

Clinical Director, Amy Olshever at 516-418-6606

 

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COPE Individual Peer Support/Mentor

Sign up to be a Peer Mentor or for Peer Support

For those bereaved parents and siblings not ready for a support group, or who wish to augment their support group experience with individual support, COPE offers “peer mentor support.”  If you are in need of a peer mentor (a parent or sibling who shares your particular loss), OR if you wish to act as a peer mentor to a newly bereaved parent or sibling, please contact info@copefoundation.com.  Peer support is truly at the heart of COPE!

 

 

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Community Events

 

Please contact info@copefoundation.com with any community healing events to list in our newsletter.

 

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COPE General Donations

We thank the following people for making donations to COPE during the months of (late) February and March:

 

General Donations:

Michael Uliano In Memory Of Samantha Rose Mergentime

Patricia Cleary In Memory Of Sammi Mergentime

Brieana Dorfman In Memory Of Sammi Mergentime

Marilyn & Leon Silverman In Memory Of David Greenberg

Patricia Geyer

Amy and Ed Hornstein In Honor Of Sammi Mergentime

Seth Burstein In Memory Of Samantha Mergentime

Karen Weiskopf In Memory Of Sammi Mergentime

Marilyn Roldan

Warren & Maddy Kiersh In Memory Of DAVID BERG

 

Camp Erin:

Ilene & Steve Rosenbaum In Honor Of Noel Corpuel

Shelley Anne Ingel In Honor Of Noel Corpuel’s 75th Birthday

Sheila Raber In Honor Of Noel Corpuel’s special birthday

Bruce Schnittman In Honor Of Noel Corpuel

Ronnie Kramer In Memory Of Robert Kramer

Ronnie Kramer In Honor Of Noel Corpuel on the occasion of his 75th Birthday

Rona & Chuck Machlin In Honor Of Noel Corpuel’s 75th Birthday

Alison Pastiu In Honor Of Noel Corpuel

Jodi & Harvey Erdman In Honor Of Noel Corpuel

Jackie & Bob Berg In Honor Of Noel Corpuel

Roni Perlzweig In Honor Of Noel Corpuel

Richard & Lydia Simonetti

Deborah A O’Connor

Eileen Linzer In Memory Of Quinn Madeleine Linzer

Sylvia & Joseph Yasgur

Ann  Fuchs

Margo Toscano In Memory Of David Berg

Stephen Nisenson In honor of Noel Corpuel’s 75th happy birthday!

 

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COPE Foundation

Eisenhower Park

Lannin Carriage House

East Meadow, NY 11554

Tel: (516) 832-2673

Email: info@copefoundation.com

www.copefoundation.org