COPE June Newsletter

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Words from COPE President and Founder Lilly Julien

June is the beginning of summer, graduations, and Father’s Day. I think of my father, my husband and my children. My father gave me the gift of life and my husband made me a mother and gave me the precious gift of my children. I think of all the children without their fathers and all the fathers without their children.

I write as a mother who lost her father and her husband.

I can not know the grief of a father. When my husband grieved our daughter, he grieved differently. We shared the love for our child. And he was the only other person in the world who knew the depth of my pain. I’m sorry I couldn’t have been more empathic to his loss. I was fighting for my survival.

“Child loss is not an event it is an indescribable journey of survival”  

  • Author Unknown

Kelly Farley, a bereaved father writes, “Of all of the grief quotes and articles I’ve seen over the years, I’ve never seen this quote before and if I had, it didn’t hit me like it did today. I think it really captures what this whole journey is about, survival. Not only are we all trying to survive, it’s an indescribable journey that cannot be conveyed in words to people that have been fortunate enough not to have to walk it. It is not an event that happens and then you move on like nothing happened. It’s profoundness to the nth degree. It rocks everything in your life to the core of your being. It redefines everything you thought you knew. Everything you thought you were. It truly is an indescribable journey.”

Mitch Carmody, another bereaved father said, “Do I feel sad on Father’s day?  You bet I do!  Do I celebrate it?  Yes, I do. I am proud to have been a son for 15 years and proud to have been a father to my son for 9 years. I am proud to be a Father for my surviving daughter. I am proud to be a grandfather.”

Feel the sadness of your Father’s day; real men grieve. Feel the pain, but also feel the joy. Feel the love that alone makes it possible to feel the pain. When we have children that still live or that have died we still have the same pride…That makes me smile on Father’s day.

Everyday is Father’s day when you find yourself surrounded in love from this world and from the next.”

Hoping the love & light of summer warms your heart.

Lilly

COPE President and Founder

Ljulien5@gmail.com

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COPE Healing Tip of the Month

From COPE Clinical Director Amy Olshever, PhD, LCSW

Helping Grieving Fathers and Brothers

Everyone’s grief is unique. But there are some general ideas about the grief of men that differs from how women grieve. This list is not universal or exhaustive but may help you to understand the how our fathers and brothers grieve differently and what we can do to support each other.

Men feel the need to be strong.

Even in the face of tragic loss, many men in our society still feel the need to be self-contained, stoic and to express little or no outward emotion. It is very much in vogue today to encourage men to openly express their feelings, but in practice few men do so. The outward expression of grief is called mourning. All men grieve when someone they love dies, but if they are to heal, they must also mourn. 

Men feel the need to be active.

The grief experience naturally creates a turning inward and slowing down on the part of the mourner, a temporary self-focus that is vital to the ultimate healing process. Yet for many men this is threatening. Masculinity is equated with striving, moving and activity. Many grieving men throw themselves into their work in an attempt to distract themselves from their painful feelings.

Active problem-solving is another common male response to grief. If a father’s child dies of leukemia, for example, the father may become actively involved in fundraising for leukemia research. Such activities can be healing for grieving men and should be encouraged.

Men feel the need to be protectors.

Men are generally thought of as the “protectors” of the family. They typically work to provide their spouses and children with a warm, safe home, safe transportation and good medical care. So when a member of his family dies, the “man of the house” may feel guilty. No matter how out of his control the death was, the man may feel deep down that he has failed at protecting the people in his care.

It’s OK for men to grieve differently.

We’ve said that men feel the need to be strong and active in the face of grief. Such responses are OK as long as he isn’t avoiding his feelings altogether. It’s also OK for men to feel and express rage, to be more cognitive or analytical about the death, to not cry. All of these typically masculine responses to grief may help your men heal; there is no one “right” way to mourn a death.

Triggers

Men may have a difficult time during special occasions like Father’s Day and other significant days, such as the birthdays and the anniversary of the death. These events emphasize the person’s absence. This pain is a natural extension of the grief process.

How Can You Help?

Offer a “safe place” for to mourn. Offer to listen whenever they want to talk. Communicate that it’s OK for him to express whatever feelings he might have-sadness, anger, guilt, fear. Reassure him that around you, he doesn’t have to be strong because you will offer support without judgment.

Adapted from Dr. Alan D. Wolfelt www.centerforloss.com. 

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Please Support our Organization

Please help COPE continue to provide support by making a donation. Any donation can be made in tribute to a particular child or loved one. To donate on line, please click here to visit our donation page www.copefoundation.org, or you can send in a check to COPE at P.O. Box 1251, Melville, NY 11747. COPE thanks you for your support.

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June COPE Calendar of Events (see details below)

June Support Groups:

6           Monday: Expressive Art Therapy – East Meadow (COPE House, 12:00pm)

6         Monday: South Shore Parent Support Group – Merrick (Merrick Jewish Center, 7pm)

6         Monday Night Parent Support Group for Parents New to COPE – East Meadow

(COPE House, 7:00pm)

7         Tuesday: DAYTIME Parent Support Group – East Meadow (COPE House, 1pm)

8         Wednesday: Western Suffolk County Parent Support Group – Dix Hills

(Chai Center, 7:00pm)

9         Thursday: Teen Grief Support Group – East Meadow (COPE House, 7:00pm)

9         Thursday: North Shore Parent Support Group for Established Parents – Syosset (Syosset Public Library, 7:00pm)

13       Monday: Parent Support Group Meeting – East Meadow (COPE House, 7:30pm)

15       Wednesday: Writing Workshop – East Meadow (COPE House, 6:30pm)

20       Monday: Monthly Meditation – East Meadow (COPE House, 7:00pm)

24       Friday: Central Suffolk County Parent Support Group – Ronkonkoma

(United Methodist Church, 7:00pm)

28       Tuesday: Long Island Adult Sibling Group – East Meadow (COPE House: 7:00pm)

30       Thursday: North Shore Parent Support Group for Parents New to COPE – Jericho

(Jericho Public Library, 7:00pm)

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Poem 

Now that I am gone,

remember me with smiles and laughter.

And if you need to cry,

cry with your brother or sister

who walks in grief beside you.

And when you need me,

put your arms around anyone

and give to them what you need to give to me.

There are so many who need so much.

I want to leave you something —

something much better than words or sounds.

Look for me in the people I’ve known

or helped in some special way.

Let me live in your heart

as well as in your mind.

You can love me most

by letting your love reach out to our loved ones,

by embracing them and living in their love.

Love does not die, people do.

So, when all that’s left of me is love,

give me away as best you can.

— Author unknown

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COPE Book Corner

Healing a Parent’s Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas After Your Child Dies

– by Alan D. Wolfelt PhD

Presenting simple yet highly effective methods for coping and healing, this book provides answers and relief to parents trying to deal with the loss of a child. It offers 100 practical, action-oriented tips for embracing grief, such as writing a letter to the child who has died; spending time with others who will listen to stories of grief; creating a memory book, box, or Web site; and remembering others who may still be struggling with the death. The guide also addresses common problems for grieving parents, including dealing with marital stress, helping surviving siblings, dealing with hurtful advice, and exploring feelings of guilt. This compassionate resource will aid parents who have been through the death of a child—whether the passing happened recently or many years ago, whether the child was young or an adult.

If you have a book to recommend which you think will help our families along their path of healing, please email Stacey at scareri@copefoundation.com.

COPE and Centering Corporation

COPE has partnered with the Centering Corporation to provide you with easy access to grief resources through our website. Centering Corporation is a non-profit organization dedicated to providing education and resources for the bereaved. With resources on adult grief, death of a child, infant loss, children’s grief, as well as a host of grief-related products, Centering Corporation’s goal is, “We give you support. We give you information. We give you hope.”

You can easily access Centering Corporations vast array of resource from the home page of COPE’s website, the left or top tool bar where is says, “Grief Resource Center”.

When checking out on the Centering Corporation’s website, COPE hopes that you will enter the coupon code “COPE” where it asks for “Input Coupon or Promotional Code”. Doing so will enable 10% of your purchases to be directed back to COPE to help fund the grief support programs we offer parents, siblings and families living with the loss of a child. COPE thanks you for your support.

COPE has published its very own Kindle book on how bereaved parents can COPE with their loss! The Kindle book, “COPING WITH THE LOSS OF A CHILD: Strategies for Living with Loss & How Friends Can Help” is available on Amazon.

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Birthdays & Passings

In the month of June, we remember the following loved ones who were taken from us before their time:

1    Jonathan Cotromano (2012, passing), son of Suzanne Cotromano

Holly Cullen (2013, passing), sister of Amy Cullen

Derlo Woolard (1984, birthday), son of Connie Hardman

Keith O’Malley (2014, passing), son of Barbara O’Malley

2   Terry C. Long, Jr. (2005, passing), brother of Jen Gaynor

Kenny Beers (1963, birthday), brother of Amy Resnik

Jordyn Fisher (1994, birthday), daughter of Carol Fisher

Richard Carbone (2012, passing), son of Richard & Billie Carbone

Gabriel Kane (2003, passing), son of Jeff & Janet Kane

3   Phillip Clemens (2010 passing), son of Freida & Phillip Clemens

Rachel Lynch (2009, passing), daughter of Doreen & Chris Lynch

Brian Bazuro (2012, passing), son of Janet & Ralph Bazuro

4   Andrew Goldman (1987, birthday), son of Valerie & Gary Goldman

Amanda Krieger (1971, birthday), daughter of JoAnn Cheyne,

sister of Jessica Kieninger

Caitlin Petrou (1985, birthday), daughter of Bridgette Dooley

Larry Yerys (1990, passing), son of Abbey & Paul Yerys and brother of Ben Yerys

Shaun Brala (1991, birthday), son of Lisa & John Brala

Nathan Davidson (2008, passing), son of Kimberly Davidson

Alfred Speehr (1967, birthday), son of Margaret Perillo

5   Stephen Fay (2012, passing), son of Thomas Fay and Pennie Fay Licalzi,

brother of Andrew Fay

Cory Vogel (1987, birthday), son of Lisa & Jay Vogel

6   Gabriel Kane (1981, birthday), son of Jeff & Janet Kane

Stephen Fay (2012, birthday), son of Thomas Fay and Pennie Fay Licalzi,

brother of Andrew Fay

Holly Oestreich (1978, birthday), daughter of Joyce Oestreich,

sister of Lyndsay Oestreich

7   Blakely Kay (2004, passing), daughter of Barbara Russell

Rutger Osterroth (1975, passing), father of Karen Flyer

8   Steve Grauer (2008, passing), son of Susan Grauer

Kelly Dinonno (1968, birthday), daughter of Sally Ryan

Kenneth Michael Warren (1986, birthday), son of Karen Warren

Laura Lee Flynn (1974, birthday), daughter of Lee Flynn

Lakeya Strickland (2006, birthday), daughter of Lakesha Strickland

9   Joseph Miles (1985, birthday), grandson of Audrey Robinson

Stacey Mickus (2011, passing), daughter of Debbie & Bill Carberry,

sister of Samantha Nanni

Erin Rose Clemens (1981, birthday), daughter of Frieda & Philip Clemens

Kathy Holvknecht (1990, birthday), daughter of Anne Holvknecht

Jon Wakiya Krug (2014, passing), son of Kari Krug

10 Karen Rose Eichin (2010, passing), daughter of Karen & Daniel Rose

11 Anthony Maletta (2005, passing), son of Eleanor DeFalco

Reza Abedi (2009, passing), daughter of Parvaneh Abedi, sister of Leyla Abedi

Andrew James Cherpak, III (2009, passing), son of Lee Ann Cherpak,

brother of Christine Cherpak

Hillary Paige Bernstein (1991, birthday), daughter of Barbara Varnhagen

and Neil Bernstein

Morgon Crofton (1991, birthday), sister of Megan Crofton

Dean Galasso (2011, passing), son of Priscilla Galasso

Lance Topol (1972, birthday), son of Arlene Topol

12 Samantha (“Sammi”) Mergentime (2009, passing),

daughter of Melanie & Larry Mergentime

Sabrina Garfield (1979, birthday), daughter of Jugnu Garfield and George Garfield

Andrew Weiner (2014, passing), brother of Leslie Glick

Adam Pomper (2012, passing), son of Bruce Pomper

13 Samuel Hawkins (1980 birthday), son of Abigail Hawkins

Michael Schwartz (1957, birthday), son of Lotte Schwartz

Jaclyn Scarabino (1988, birthday), daughter of Diane & Robert Scarabino,

sister of Michael and Ricky Scarabino

Ed Schuldner (1968, birthday), son of Barbara Schuldner

14 Justin Carroll (2009, passing), son of Jean Carroll

Jacob Grady Smith (2010, birthday and passing), son of Jason & Kathleen Smith

Rebecca Swender (2008, passing), sister of Melissa Swender

Scott Biggart (2011, passing), son of Jeanne & Kurt Biggart

Christopher A. Basmas (1982, birthday), brother of Cynthia Russo

Kevin Gilday (2012, passing), son of Eileen Gilday, brother of Kathleen Harten

Owen Sheridan (1977, birthday), son of Jim Sheridan

Kelly Salgine (1983, birthday), daughter of Michael & Tina Salgine

15 Sean Alger (2010, passing), son of Frances Alger

Brian Pupke (1994, birthday), son of Robert & Heather Pupke

Liam Barry (1989, birthday), son of Matthew & Andra Barry

Warren Kraft (2013, passing), son of Warren Kraft

Pauline Namati (1979, birthday), daughter of Mitra & Iradj Nemati

16 Kenneth Grym (1989, birthday), son of Kelly Grym

Michelle Bergman (1967, birthday), daughter of Marc & Jean Levinn,

sister of Sharri Chahalis

Suzanne Fox (1972, birthday), daughter of Carol Fox

Lonny Ostrofsky (2001, passing), son of Marilyn Ostrofsky

Alyssa Seaman (1988, birthday), daughter of Mary & Donald Seaman

Brendan Aykroyd (2011, passing), son of Sandi Aykroyd

Alan Cohen (2015, passing), father of Lindsay Cohen

17 Boruch Teldon (1991, passing), son of Chaya & Rabbi Tuvia Teldon

Alexis Pilkington (1992, birthday), daughter of Paula Pilkington

Haylen Ava Lee (2011, birthday), daughter of Natalie Johnson Lee

18 Steven Kovacs (1987, birthday), son of Joni Howe and Wayne Kovacs

Edward Ennis (2009, passing), son of Paula Nolan

Leeor Perl (2004, passing), daughter of Aliza Perl

19 Aram Chowdhury (1976, birthday), son of Ellen Chowdhury

Kevin Lynch (1961, birthday), son of Doreen & Chris Lynch

Joseph Mastrangelo (2011, passing), son of Christine & Michael Mastrangelo

Cody McKenzie Gainey (1992, birthday), son of Michelle Wright

Gabriel Pierro (1986, birthday), son of Fabian Pierro

Jeffrey Wagner (2015, passing), son of Brian & Rosemary Wagner,

brother of Tara McErlean

20 Mark Anthony Governale (1985, birthday), son of Diana Roscigno

William H. Long (2011, passing), brother of Jen Gaynor

Janna Altarac (1984, birthday), daughter of Faith Altarac, sister of Jocelyn Verbeck

21 Dawn Leslie (2008, passing), daughter of Karen & David Leslie

Steven Wolkoff (2008, passing), son of Sandy Wolkoff

Josephine Avolio Kovacs (2010 passing), sister of Cathy Avolio

Haylen Ava Lee (2013, passing), daughter of Natalie Johnson Lee

Jordan Anthony (2012, passing), son of Anna-Margaret, brother of Ciara-Juliette

Tracey Young (1969, birthday), sister of April Young

Hemant Mehta (1966, birthday), father of Priyanka Mehta

Chloe Weil (1985, birthday), daughter of Dina Weil

22 Nicole Novick (1972, birthday), daughter of Carol & Gerry Acker

Mario Guy Mendez (2004, passing), son of Ellen Pontecorvo

Benjamin Ziegelbaum (1988, birthday), son of Amy Ziegelbaum

James Geros (1990, birthday), son of Diane Geros

Jarrad William Mancuso (1983, birthday), son of Sheree & John Mancuso

Rachel Small (1984, birthday), sister of Hannah Small

John Paul Pedagna (1965, birthday), son of Frances Pedagna

Josh Sutton (1981, birthday), brother of Jennifer Sutton

23 Kieran McCaffrey (2008, passing), son of John & Tara McCaffrey

Andrew Blackman (2009, passing), son of Marcia & Jay Blackman

Beth Adams (2005, birthday), daughter of Becky Garduno

Finneaus Joseph Egan (2012, passing), son of Emily Snyder

Blake Carlin (2013, passing), son of Jacqueline Carlin

Stephen Clark (1994, birthday), son of Rosemary & Joe Clark

24 Holli Haymes (1963, birthday), sister of Ellen Heller

Rachel Lynch (1982, birthday), daughter of Doreen & Chris Lynch

Michael Joseph Fisher (2010, passing), son of Carol Fisher

Martin Belonsky (2014, passing), son of Medline Belonsky

Christopher Conklin (1988, birthday), son of Gordon Conklin

Rebecca Rosenblatt (1989, birthday), daughter of Lisa Rosenblatt,

sister of Navah Rosenblatt

25 Ronald Eisenburg (1943, birthday), son of Linda Biderman

Richard Carbone (1984, birthday), son of Richard & Billie Carbone

Eric Britton (2013, passing), brother of Laurie Britton

26 Shane Verity (1985, birthday), son of Pat Verity

Joseph Polchinski (1990, birthday), son of Lena Polchinski

27 Sanford (Sandy) Drexler (1961, birthday), son of Shelly Drexler

Michael John Pina, Jr. (1991, birthday), son of Alisha Pendleton

28 Jonathan Glasgal (1997, passing), son of Judith Long, brother of David Glasgal

John James (J.J.) Speller (2005, passing), son of Nancy & John Speller

Jeffrey Feldman (1976, birthday), son of Michael & Harriet Feldman,

brother of Jennifer Feldman

Corey Loeliger-Myers (2013, passing), brother of Kenny Loeliger-Myers

Howie Robinson (1970, birthday), son of Jeff & Harriet Robinson

29 Todd Grayson (1970, birthday), son of Florence & Jerry Grayson

Melissa Giogio (2008, passing), daughter of Mary Giorgio

30 Sean Alger (1986, birthday), son of Frances Alger

Shannon McNamara (1981, birthday), brother of Cynthia McNamara

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COPE Parent Column

June 2016 

This poem was written by COPE Parent Sandi Bloomberg in memory of her son Michael.

Give me a Sign

Visit me Son

In the middle of the night

Or perhaps in the bright of day

Please let me know your presence

Somehow, sometime, someway

 

Since you’re gone

There’s a hole in my heart

That I know will never heal

Your smile, your hugs, your gentle touch

I can no longer feel

 

My sweet handsome boy

How I miss you so

And dream of you each night

Life goes on for sure my dear

But never will seem right

 

There isn’t a place, a person or thing

That doesn’t remind me of you

I think of you every second

This is all I do

 

So please my Son

Let me know you’re near

Give me a sign some way

Flicker a light, kiss my cheek with a breeze

Whisper to me when I pray

 

I’ve been finding many pennies

Could they be from you?

They say found pennies are from Heaven

I believe this to be true

I love you Son, I miss you Son

Just any sign will do

To share your thoughts about this posting, please click here to visit our website and enter your comment under the LEAVE A REPLY section.

Please share with us your writings about your child. Email Stacey at scareri@copefoundation.com for more information.

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COPE Sibling Column

June 2016

Please share with us your writings about your sibling. Email Stacey at scareri@copefoundation.com for more information.

COPE News

If anyone has any news to share with the group or a poem or inspirational story (to potentially be included in a future newsletter if you wish), please email Stacey at scareri@copefoundation.org.

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Camp Erin® NYC – COPE Foundation

For the Latest News About COPE Camp Erin New York City!

August 26 – 28, 2016

Camp Erin New York City- COPE Foundation, a FREE bereavement camp for children ages 6-17 dealing with a major loss, is scheduled for August 26th – 28th, 2016, at Camp Wayne, in PA, on the New York State border.

For more information on Camp Erin, volunteering, or for registration materials, please email COPE-Camp Erin New York City Camp Director Ann Fuchs at afuchs@copefoundation.com or

914-552-6919.

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Monday Night South Shore Parent Support – Merrick

Merrick Jewish Center

Monday, June 6th at 7:00 p.m. SHARP

Join COPE and social worker Judy Hasnas for our South Shore Parent Support Group meeting on Monday, June 6th from 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. SHARP at the Merrick Jewish Center (in the LIBRARY unless otherwise noted) which is located at 225 Fox Boulevard Merrick, NY. This group meets one Monday evening of the month at this time. Judy Hasnas, LCSW, BCD, has a private practice in Bellmore, New York, and facilitated bereavement groups for parents of fire fighters who were killed on 9/11 as part of the Counseling Service Unit, FDNY.  She also worked as an independent contractor at the Steinway Child and Family Service of Howard Beach and was a social work coordinator at Bellevue Hospital Center.

For more information, please email Stacey at scareri@copefoundation.com.

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Monday Night Parent Support Group for Parents New to COPE – East Meadow

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

Monday, June 6th at 7:00 p.m. SHARP

The Monday night COPE North Shore group for parents NEW TO COPE will meet this month on Monday, June 6th from 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. This group will be facilitated by Marilyn Kohn, LCSW, and will be held at the COPE House in Eisenhower Park, East Meadow NY at Field 6A. For directions, please visit our website at www.copefoundation.org or email scareri@copefoundation.com.

For more information, please email Stacey at scareri@copefoundation.com.

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NEW Tuesday DAYTIME Parent Support Group – East Meadow

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

Tuesday, June 7th at 1:00 p.m. SHARP

The NEW DAYTIME Parent Support Group which normally meets the first Tuesday of the month at the COPE House at Eisenhower Park (Field 6A) in East Meadow will meet next on Tuesday, June 7th from 1:00 – 2:30 p.m. The group is facilitated by licensed social worker Janet Zimmerman. Janet is currently in private practice as a psychotherapist. She previously ran bereavement groups for the Mid-Island JCC and has been a social worker for almost 40 years. For more information or to express your interest, please contact Amy Olshever, COPE Clinical Director, at 516-418-6606.

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Wednesday Night Western Suffolk County Parent Support Group – Dix Hills

The Chai Center in Dix Hills

Wednesday, June 8th at 7:00 p.m. SHARP

Please join COPE and social worker Denise Fields for our Parent Support Group in Suffolk County, at the Chai Center in Dix Hills (501 Vanderbilt Parkway). This group meets next on Wednesday, June 8th from 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. Denise has a private psychotherapy practice in Dix Hills, specializing in bereavement.  She previously was a consultant to the Huntington School district, and ran bereavement groups for the Family Service League in Huntington.  The group normally meets the second Wednesday evening of every month from 7:00-8:30 p.m.

For more information, please email Stacey at scareri@copefoundation.com.

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Monday Night Parent Support Group – East Meadow

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

Monday, June 13th at 7:30 p.m. SHARP

The Monday night COPE North Shore group will meet this month on Monday, June 13th from 7:30 – 9:00 p.m. This group will be facilitated by Marilyn Kohn, LCSW, and will be held at the COPE House in Eisenhower Park, East Meadow NY at Field 6A. For directions, please visit our website at www.copefoundation.org or email scareri@copefoundation.com. This group is for parents who have been part of COPE. New to COPE parents should plan on attending the other Monday night meeting on June 6th.

For more information, please email Stacey at scareri@copefoundation.com.

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Thursday Night North Shore Parent Support Group for Established Parents – Syosset

Syosset Library

Thursday, June 9th at 7:00 p.m. SHARP

Join COPE for our Two-Year Plus North Shore Parent Support Group meeting on Thursday, June 9th at 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. SHARP at the Syosset Public Library (225 So. Oyster Bay Road).

COPE will once again be joined by Marilyn Kohn, LCSW, a licensed social worker with a private practice specializing in bereavement counseling and individual and family therapy.   This is a group intended for parents whose loss occurred over two years ago. Newly bereaved parents should feel free to attend one of COPE’s other support groups.

The second group, at the Jericho Public Library in Jericho (1 Merry Lane) is now for parents new to COPE.

For more information, please email Stacey at scareri@copefoundation.com.

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Thursday Night North Shore Parent Support Group for Parents New to COPE – Jericho

Jericho Library

Thursday, June 30th at 7:00 p.m. SHARP

Parents NEW TO COPE, please join us for our North Shore Parent Support Group meeting on Thursday, June 30th from 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. SHARP at the Jericho Public Library (1 Merry Lane in Jericho).

This group, which meets monthly, is facilitated by Marilyn Kohn, LCSW, a licensed social worker with a private practice specializing in bereavement counseling and individual and family therapy. This is for parents NEW TO COPE, as Marilyn’s other Thursday and Monday groups are filled at this time.

For more information, please email Stacey at scareri@copefoundation.com.

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Friday Night Central Suffolk County Parent Support Group – Ronkonkoma

United Methodist Church in Ronkonkoma

Friday, June 24th at 7:00 p.m. SHARP

Please join COPE and social worker Lisa Vitucci for our NEW Central Suffolk County Parent Support Group at the United Methodist Church in Ronkonkoma (792 Hawkins Avenue Lake Grove, NY 11755, 631-588-5856). This group will meet next on Friday, June 24th at 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. Lisa has more than ten years’ experience as a bereavement social worker for a hospice agency and is currently the Director of Social Work at ProHEALTH Care Support. Lisa can be reached with any questions at 516-808-5821.

For more information or to express interest in this group, please email Stacey at scareri@copefoundation.com.

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Tuesday Night Long Island Adult Sibling Group – East Meadow

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

Tuesday, June 28th at 7:00 p.m. (NOTE: Group Now Meeting on Tuesdays)

Please join COPE for our adult sibling group on Long Island on Tuesday, June 28th from 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. at the COPE House in East Meadow. For directions, please visit our website at www.copefoundation.org or email scareri@copefoundation.com. The group will be facilitated by licensed social worker Amy Kirschenblatt. Amy is a social worker with EDTC (Eating Disorders Treatment Collaborative) in Jericho, NY. Previously, she worked in a prenatal care program at NSHS/LIJ.

For more information, please email Stacey at scareri@copefoundation.com.

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Teen Grief Support Group (13-17) – East Meadow

COPE House in East Meadow

Thursday, June 9th at 7:00 p.m. SHARP

Teens that have lost a sibling, parent, or significant loved one…. If you are interested in attending the new COPE Teen Grief Support Group the second Thursday evening of every month at 7:00 p.m. at the COPE House in East Meadow, please express your interest to Clinical Director Amy Olshever at 516-418-6606. The next meeting of the group will be June 9th at 7:00 p.m.

The group is facilitated by licensed social worker Jennifer Plunkett. Jennifer is currently a psychotherapist with a private practice in Huntington where she specializes in treating adolescents, and an adjunct instructor at Suffolk Community College where she teaches courses in Child & Adolescent Psychology. Jennifer previously served as a bereavement specialist at Good Shepherd Hospice. There will also be a weekly social media component involved between the meetings. There is no cost to participate in this program.

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NYC Parent Support Group

1177 Avenue of the Americas @46th Street

ON HIATUS

The New York City parent group, facilitated by social worker Bridgette Boucher, which met on the second Tuesday of every month at 1177 Avenue of the Americas at 46th Street floor C-2, Suite 0020 from 7:00-8:30 p.m. is CURRENTLY ON HIATUS awaiting additional interest. If you know of anyone interested in this group, please contact COPE Clinical Director Amy Olshever at amyolshever@copefoundation.com.

 

Bridgette is currently a family therapist working with the Sloan Kettering Cancer Center and has a private practice in New York City. She was previously a therapist for the Ackerman Institute for the Family, treating families dealing with grief, substance abuse, domestic violence, trauma and relationship problems. For more information, please contact Bridgette at boucher9175@gmail.com.

 

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NYC Young Adult Sibling Support Group –

Express Interest Now

Location TBD in Manhattan – Looking for Space

The COPE young adult sibling support group in Manhattan is going to be starting up again soon! If you are an adult sibling interested in attending, please email Karen Flyer at Karen@copefoundation.com. The group will likely meet on the 1st or 3rd Wednesday evening of the month, with exact date and time determined by facilitator and space availability.

We are looking for office space to hold our group. If you work in an office in Manhattan that would have space we could borrow one night per month, please let Karen know. The space does need to be large – the group tends to have 6-10 people. A licensed social worker employed by COPE would be running the group.

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Young Children’s Grief Support Group (Ages ~7-12)

COPE House in East Meadow

ON HIATUS

The Children’s Grief Support Group for kids ages 7-12 living with the loss of a loved one is on hiatus due to lack of enrollment. If you are interested in your child joining an 8-week spring group, please contact COPE Clinical Director Amy Olshever at 516-418-6606 or amyolshever@copefoundation.com.

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Monthly Meditation

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

Monday, June 20th, 7:00pm

The Monthly Meditation Group takes the place of the Spirituality Circle. Monthly Meditations will meet at the COPE House in Eisenhower Park in East Meadow.   Since space is limited please RSVP.

COPE hopes that all parents interested in meditation as an integral part of the healing process will attend these monthly get-togethers. Some months will include guest speakers and healers. If you have any questions, please contact Lilly Julien at ljulien5@gmail.com.

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Expressive Art Workshop

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

Monday, June 6th, 12:00pm

This month we will be planting flowers and making stepping stones. Please bring any small stones, shells, or meaningful objects for your stone.

The COPE Expressive Art Workshop meets monthly at the COPE House in Eisenhower Park in East Meadow. You do NOT have to be an artist or have artistic “talent” to participate.

For more information, please email Lilly Julien at ljulien5@gmail.com.

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Integrative Healing Workshop Series

Embracing the Power of the Pen

Wednesday, June 15, 2016 6:30PM, COPE House in Eisenhower Park

Please join COPE and Patty Rossi to experience the power of the pen as a source of solace and comfort in the grieving process. This evening will be devoted to writing and healing. Writing journals will be provided.

Be part of this artistic venture. Come explore writing as a tool to comfort and heal.

Please RSVP to Stacey at SCareri@copefoundation.com by June 8th.

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SAVE THE DATE

COPE’s 14th Annual Walk

Sunday, September 25, 2016, 10:00am – 1:00pm

Long Beach Boardwalk in Long Beach

Walk to honor our children and siblings who have passed, to support members of COPE and encourage their healing, and to expand the organization’s outreach to others in need of help.

Stay tuned for more information about registration and sponsorship opportunities.

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Community Events

Please contact Stacey at scareri@copefoundation.com with any community healing events to list in our newsletter.

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COPE Individual Support/Peer Mentor

Sign up for to be a Peer Mentor or for Peer support!

For those bereaved parents and siblings not ready for a support group, or who wish to augment their support group experience with individual support, COPE offers “peer mentor support”  If you are in need of a peer mentor (a parent or sibling who shares your particular loss), OR if you wish to act as a peer mentor to a newly bereaved parent or sibling, please contact Stacey at scareri@copefoundation.com.  Peer support is truly at the heart of COPE!

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COPE Donations

We thank the following people for making donations to COPE during the months of (late) April and May:

General Donations

  • In Memory of Jaclyn Scarabino, In Our Hearts with Love, Always & Forever. Happy 28th Birthday in Heaven – Mom, Dad, Ricky, and Michael
  • Andrew Borak in memory of Samantha Mergentime
  • Dr. Joseph Dubin in memory of Samantha Mergentime
  • Milton & Jena Berlinski
  • Rochelle Mark in memory of Edna Carraco
  • Random Acts of Kindness for Mandy in memory of Amanda Kuck
  • Laura B. Vogler Foundation, Inc.
  • Kristy Anderson in honor of the Lucero Family
  • Long Island Imagine Awards
  • Lisa & Daniel Doll

Labyrinth

  • Sherry & Stu Radowitz

 

COPE thanks everyone who supported our recent COPE Golf Outing. Your donations to COPE and Camp Erin NYC will provide parents, siblings, and children continued support.

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COPE Foundation

P.O. Box 1251

Melville, NY 11747

Tel: (516) 484-4993, Fax: 516-484-4885

Email: scareri@copefoundation.com

www.copefoundation.org