I approach May each year with apprehension because of Mother’s Day.

This year I discovered something which makes me feel differently. Mother’s Day was actually created in honor of a bereaved mother. In 1908, Anna Jarvis founded Mother’s Day as a memorial to honor her mother who experienced the death of 7 of her children.

So this day which appears not to be about us is because of us. Mother’s Day is a day for us “to remember” that we never stop loving our children or being a mother because our child is not with us. We are forever a mother and they are always our child.

Those of us who have lost a child understand that the lives we cherish are fragile and that there is nothing more important than those we love.

“A mother is not defined by the number of children you can see, but by the love that she holds in her heart.”

– Franchesca Cox