COPE October Newsletter

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Words from COPE President and Founder Lilly Julien

Dear COPE Families,

The Exciting Evolution of Camp Erin NYC and the COPE Parent Retreat…

Having just returned from Camp Erin NYC, a program of COPE, I wanted to share how it has evolved. Just a few weeks ago, 53 children who were grieving the loss of a sibling, parent, or someone close to them experienced a free weekend at our bereavement camp. This year, for the first time, 23 of their parents had an opportunity to retreat on the other side of the lake.

Without the distraction of their children, those who attended the COPE Parent Retreat had the chance to focus on themselves. When one loses a loved one, they lose a piece of themselves. The theme of the weekend was finding yourself and the tools to live a life that has dramatically changed. The program mirrored the children’s program with candle lighting, memory board, and circle times to speak about their grief, as well as free time to exercise, swim, engage in art therapy, and experience reiki.

Since the inception of Camp Erin NYC, I have recognized that if a parent is nurtured in their grief, they have more to give to their children. After a weekend of sharing and support from each other, they bonded like their children on the other side of the lake, feeling less alone in their grief and leaving a little bit lighter and restored.

The challenge is holding on to that support.

COPE is offering a teen group and younger child support group beginning in October.

Children often fall through the cracks and are at greater risk if their grief is not addressed and supported.

COPE’s goal is to address the needs of your entire family. Please let us know how we can better help you help your children.

Hope to see you this Sunday, Sept. 27th, on Long Beach Boardwalk, as we walk in memory of our children, siblings and loved ones, holding everyone we love in our hearts…

Lilly


 

COPE Healing Tip of the Month

From COPE Clinical Director Amy Olshever, PhD, LCSW

Healing Tip: October 2015

 

Food for Thought

 

For some people grief steals your appetite. For others it offers comfort for an insatiable hunger. What role does food play in your grief? Are there helpful and unhelpful ways to use food in your grief process? Yes and yes. Often we equate food and love. So when you are grieving, others who care for you may try to feed you. This can be helpful if grief has stolen your appetite; take their help and try to eat well. It is important to remember that you need to replenish yourself as best as you can to bolster your strength both physically and emotionally.

 

Food can offer comfort beyond the physical realm. You may have shared many experiences involving the preparation of, shopping for or sharing of food and taste experiences – these can trigger memories which can be both positive and negative. The smells, tastes and textures can help bring comforting memories. But, because all grief is unique, it is important to be mindful of what memories you may activate and try to focus on the foods that will bring you comfort. Sometimes it takes trial and error to identify what will trigger good memories for you. And once you do find which foods give you comfort and good memories, you may want to think about how personal and private they are, or if you want to share them with other friends or family. And finally, those foods that do not bring you comfort now, may surprise you next year by offering comfort, so experimentation and repetition are good strategies.

 


Please Support our Organization

Please help COPE continue to provide support by making a donation. Any donation can be made in tribute to a particular child or loved one. To donate on line, please click here to visit our donation page www.copefoundation.org, or you can send in a check to COPE at P.O. Box 1251, Melville, NY 11747. COPE thanks you for your support.

 


October COPE Calendar of Events (see details below)

 

October Workshops:

Sep 27 COPE Walk (Long Beach Boardwalk: 11:00am)

5          Monday Night Parent Support Group Meeting – East Meadow (COPE House: 7:30pm)

5          Merrick Parent Support Group Meeting – Merrick (Merrick Jewish Center: 7pm)

6          Tuesday DAYTIME Parent Support Group Meeting – East Meadow (COPE House: 1pm)

7          Children’s Bereavement Group – East Meadow (COPE House: 6:30pm): also on the 14th, 21st, 28th

8          Teen Support Group – East Meadow (COPE House: 7:00pm)

8          Thursday Night Parent Support Group Meeting (2+ Years) (Syosset Library: 7:00pm)

12        Art Workshop (COPE House: 12:30pm)

13        Chair Yoga Healing Workshop (COPE House: 7:00pm)

14        Wednesday Night Parent Support Group – Dix Hills (Chai Center: 7:00pm)

17        NYC Adult Sibling Support Group (Manhattan: 10:30am)

19        Monday Night Parent Support Group Meeting – East Meadow (COPE House: 7:30pm)

21        Spiritual Circle (COPE House: 7:30pm)

22        Thursday Night Parent Support Group Meeting (New Parents) (Jericho Library: 7:00pm)

26        Monday Night Adult Sibling Group – East Meadow (COPE House: 7:00pm)

30        Friday Night Parent Support Group – Ronkonkoma (United Methodist Church: 7:00pm)

 


Poem

 

Look for me in Rainbows

 

Time for me to go now, I won’t say goodbye;

Look for me in rainbows, way up in the sky.

In the morning sunrise when all the world is new,

Just look for me and love me, as you know I loved you.

 

Time for me to leave you, I won’t say goodbye;

Look for me in rainbows, high up in the sky.

In the evening sunset, when all the world is through,

Just look for me and love me, and I’ll be close to you.

 

It won’t be forever, the day will come and then

My loving arms will hold you, when we meet again.

 

Time for us to part now, we won’t say goodbye;

Look for me in rainbows, shining in the sky.

Every waking moment, and all your whole life through

Just look for me and love me, as you know I loved you.

 

Just wish me to be near you,

And I’ll be there with you.

 

Music and lyrics: Conn Bernard (1990). Vicki Brown

 


COPE Book Corner

Comfort: A Journey Through Grief

By Ann Hood

A moving and remarkable memoir about the sudden death of a daughter, surviving grief, and learning to love again.

In 2002, Ann Hood’s five-year-old daughter Grace died suddenly from a virulent form of strep throat. Stunned and devastated, the family searched for comfort in a time when none seemed possible. Hood—an accomplished novelist—was unable to read or write. She could only reflect on her lost daughter—”the way she looked splashing in the bathtub…the way we sang ‘Eight Days a Week.’ ” One day, a friend suggested she learn to knit. Knitting soothed her and gave her something to do. Eventually, she began to read and write again. A semblance of normalcy returned, but grief, in ever new and different forms, still held the family. What they could not know was that comfort would come, and in surprising ways. Hood traces her descent into grief and reveals how she found comfort and hope again—a journey to recovery that culminates with a newly adopted daughter.

To purchase the book for 25% off through Centering Corporation, please click here (http://www.centering.org/index.php?page=book&id=88&pid=1177
http://www.centering.org/index.php?page=book&id=94&pid=1206). Please enter the coupon code “COPE” where it asks for “Input Coupon or Promotional Code”. Doing so will enable 10% of your purchases to be directed back to COPE.

 

If you have a book to recommend which you think will help our families along their path of healing, please email Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.com.

 

COPE and Centering Corporation

COPE has partnered with the Centering Corporation to provide you with easy access to grief resources through our website. Centering Corporation is a non-profit organization dedicated to providing education and resources for the bereaved. With resources on adult grief, death of a child, infant loss, children’s grief, as well as a host of grief-related products, Centering Corporation’s goal is, “We give you support. We give you information. We give you hope.”

 

You can easily access Centering Corporations vast array of resource from the home page of COPE’s website, the left or top tool bar where is says, “Grief Resource Center”.

 

When checking out on the Centering Corporation’s website, COPE hopes that you will enter the coupon code “COPE” where it asks for “Input Coupon or Promotional Code”. Doing so will enable 10% of your purchases to be directed back to COPE to help fund the grief support programs we offer parents, siblings and families living with the loss of a child. COPE thanks you for your support.

 

COPE has published its very own Kindle book on how bereaved parents can COPE with their loss! The Kindle book, “COPING WITH THE LOSS OF A CHILD: Strategies for Living with Loss & How Friends Can Help” is available on Amazon.

 


Birthdays & Passings

In the month of October, we remember the following loved ones who were taken from us before their time:

 

1    Gary Lichtenstein (2003, passing), son of Dora & Mario Lichtenstein, brother of Eric and

Adam Lichtenstein

Morris Lindenbaum (2005, passing), son of Sylvia Lindenbaum

Cara Danika Tobias (2009, birthday), daughter of Nancy & Eric Tobias

Sanford (Sandy) Drexler (2013, passing), son of Shelly Drexler

Cody Taddonio (1996, birthday), son of Susan Taddonio

2    Michael Santoli (2013, passing), son of Maria Santoli

3    Timmy Carr (2002, passing), son of Jackie Carr

Philip Eliot (1964, birthday), son of Gloria and Paul Eliot

Theresa Durso (1988, birthday), daughter of Carolyn Durso

Anthony Biuso (1982, birthday), brother of Nicole Biuso

4    Zachary Kudisch (1988, birthday), son of Howard & Diane Lipman

Nezery Porter (1990, birthday), son of Kenneth Scruggs

Shane Verity (2012, passing), son of Pat Verity

5    Rebecca Quantinetz (1981, birthday), sister of Lara Quantinetz

Denny Walsh (1966, birthday), son of Katherine Walsh

Kenny Beers (2011, passing), brother of Amy Resnik

6    Dhaivat Sharma (2011, passing), son of Sabina Sabina

Allison Liao (2013, passing), daughter of His-Pi Liao

7    Hedy Jacobowitz (1964, birthday), daughter of Betty Jacobowitz

Jeffrey Spiegel (2006, passing), son of Elaine Winston

Omahni Jayden Omogbemi (2010, passing), son of Christmas Morgan

Thomas Reynolds (2011, passing), son of Lisa Reynolds

John (Johnny) Kessner (1989, birthday), brother of Robert Kessner

Audrey Garcia (1977, birthday), daughter of Barbara McGowan

8    Michael Schwartz (2009, passing), son of Lotte Schwartz

Dane Ewald (2011, passing), son of Jeffrey Ewald

Sammy Cohen Eckstein (2013, passing), son of Amy & Gary Eckstein

9    Michael Mattera (1996, passing), son of Sal Mattera

Samantha Schwartz (1980, birthday), daughter of Sheila Schwartz

Kimberly Mlynarczyk (2009, birthday), daughter of Susan La Maina

Jay Levitt (2012, passing), son of Barbara Levitt

10  Jeffrey Zukerman (1963, birthday), son of Claire Zukerman Leinheardt, brother of Steven

Zukerman and Amy Zukerman Julien

Eileen Sullivan (1959, birthday), daughter of Eileen Gilday, sister of Kathleen Harten

Nathan (Nate) Nater (2011, passing), son of Vera Webber

Brian Kaminsky (2014, passing), son of Shelley & Stu Kaminsky

Justin Raja (2014, passing), brother of Dana Raja

11  Sean Russo (1970, birthday), son of Genia Salitra-Belkin, brother of Shannon Russo Pollack

Kierin Garvey (2011, passing), son of William & Theresa Garvey, brother of Shannon Garvey

Andrew Hertzka (1990, birthday), son of Susan & Robert Hertzka

Christina Louise Salazar (2012, passing), sister of Andrew Rayis

12  Andrew Mineo (1987, birthday), son of Jo & Vinnie Mineo

13  Adam Sanders (2014, passing), son of Laurie Sanders and brother of Brian Sanders

14  David Berez (1985, birthday), son of Gabriella Vaknin

Jackie Goldstein (2005, passing), daughter of Diane Goldstein

Julian Pietras (2010, passing), son of Eva & Derek Pietras

Shauni Ashley Frank (1991, birthday), daughter of Christine Sparkman

Jordan Medoff (1989, birthday), son of Jeanette Graf and Bennett Medoff

Ryan Groh (2014, passing), son of Lisa Groh

Alisha Moore (1989, birthday), daughter of Janette Moore

15  Preston Walsh (2010, passing), son of Genevieve Walsh

Vicki Marczak (2011, passing), daughter of Judith & Ed Marczak

Linda Stasio (2011, passing), daughter of Linda Stasio

Holly Cullen (birthday), sister of Amy Cullen

Ryan Hannigan (2014, passing), son of Anita & John Hannigan

16  Carey Jay Nachtigall (2008, passing), son of Gloria Nachtigall

Robert Polacco (birthday), son of Loretta Polacco

17  Anthony Krayewski (2008, passing), son of Danielle & Steven Krayewski

Lisa Bornstein (1969, birthday), sister of Gary Bornstein

18  Amanda Wells (1978, birthday), daughter of Linda Wells

Jonathan Sarli (1981, birthday), son of Karen Sarli

Marianne Posalie (2011, passing), daughter of Ann Posalie

Joey Boncic (1997, birthday), brother of Katarina Boncic

Giovanni Cipriano (2013, passing), son of Georgina & John Cipriano

19  Denny Walsh (2006, passing), son of Katherine Walsh

20  Jackie Goldstein (1977, birthday), daughter of Diane Goldstein

Josh DeBare (1983, birthday), son of Linda DeBare

Jimmy McKasty (2009, passing), son of Irene McKasty and brother of Doreen McKasty

Mike Yedid (2010, passing), son of Elyse & Robert Yedid, brother of Alan and David Yedid

Joseph Bobick (2011, passing), son of Lorraine Bobick

Jesse Greene (1981, birthday), brother of Sydney Greene

21  Michael Mattera (1979, birthday), son of Sal Mattera

Hemant Mehta (2006, passing), father of Priyanka Mehta

22  Brian Harley Assa (1991, birthday), son of Jerry & Sandy Assa and brother of Vanessa Assa

Justin Weisleder (2009, passing), son of Ida Weisleder

Stacey Mickus (1982, birthday), daughter of Debbie & Bill Carberry, sister of Samantha Nanni

Peter Joseph Brown (1971, birthday), son of Lisa Rodino

Kristin M. Lucia (1987, birthday), daughter of Isis Lucia Hart

Justin Weisleder (2009, passing), son of Ida Weisleder

23  Cindy Behrmann Veeder (1971, birthday), daughter of Sheila Berhmann

Justin Carroll (1991, birthday), son of Jean Carroll

24  Noah Sher (1978, birthday), son of Denise Sher

Fritz Edward B. Ayunting (1992, birthday), son of Julieth Ayunting

Billy Garceau (1990, birthday), son of Debbie & Larry Garceau and brother of Christina Garceau

25  Jared Kalensky (2012, passing), brother of Jana Diamond

Alan Millman (1952, birthday), son of Stecia Millman

Jimmy Piedmont (1987, birthday), son of Linda Piedmont

26  Naomi Popper (1980, birthday), daughter of Alex & Ronnie Popper

27  Jarrett Hayden Lang (1972 birthday and passing), son of Sharon Lang

Christopher A. Basmas (2011, passing), brother of Cynthia Russo

Jeff Reczkowski (2013, passing), brother of Rita O’Neil

Michael Salerno (1989, birthday), son of Patricia Salerno

28  Michael Wolkis (1993, birthday), son of Amy & Jerry Wolkis

Andrew James Cherpak, III (1981, birthday), son of Lee Ann Cherpak and brother of Christine Cherpak

Anthony Valente (1978, birthday), son of Lynda Valente

Michael Castellano (2012, passing), son of Nanette Loweree

David Lawrence (2013, passing), son of Mary Desmond

29  Michael (Mikey) Ricatto (1981, birthday), son of Laura Failla

Michael Lassig (1992, birthday), son of Lisa Lassig

30  Zachary Kudisch (2008, passing), son of Howard & Diane Lipman

Kristin M. Lucia (2013, passing), daughter of Isis Lucia Hart

Michael Bigay (1976, birthday), brother of Jeffrey Bigay

Justin Disharoon (1987, birthday), son of Heather Bilton

31  Katalin Leigh Cousar (passing), daughter of Al Cousar

Louie Manzella (1986, birthday), son of Nancy Manzella

Wayne Walther (2013, passing), son of Jennifer & Jesse Walther

Adam Wolf (2013, passing), son of Naomi Wolf

 


COPE Parent Column

October 2015

I wanted to share a picture of our beautiful daughter Elisa Pomeranz before she was consumed by her eating disorder, anorexia. Elisa would be 35, September 30. She passed away in 2014.   Elisa was bright, artistic, generous and loved her family.   She was a excellent swimmer and loved going to the beach. She was a Magna Cum Laude graduate with a Masters in Occupational Therapy.   Elisa worked with elementary school children to develop their fine motor skills.

 

Elisa’s brother Jeff was married in March. Jeff and his wife Wendy did speak of Elisa during the ceremony which my husband and I were very thankful.

 

Our lives will never be the same but we have many good memories before her life was taken by this horrible illness.

 

  • Dale and Peter Pomeranz

 

Please share with us your writings about your child. Email Karen Flyer at Karen@copefoundation.com for more information.


 

COPE Sibling Column

October 2015

 

Please share with us your writings about your sibling. Email Karen Flyer at Karen@copefoundation.com for more information.


 

COPE News

Our new website is now live! Please check out copefoundation.org for our brand new site! More interactivity and online support coming soon!

 

Congratulations to Jane and Jon Bell on their birth of their grandsons Henry and Lincoln!

 

Best wishes for a speedy recovery to COPE facilitator Amy Kirschenblatt as she recovers from back surgery.

 

If anyone has any news to share with the group or a poem or inspirational story (to potentially be included in a future newsletter if you wish), please email Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.org.

 

Also, if you would like to have a picture of your child or sibling posted on the COPE website, please email me a jpeg and we will add it to the children’s page. Also, if you have any foundations for your child, we would happily list those on our website.


 

COPE Chair Yoga Workshop for Parents and Adult Siblings

Tuesday, October 13th at 7:00 p.m.

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

Join COPE and yoga instructor Debra Monaco for our next monthly “Healing from the Inside Out” program. The chair yoga workshop will be held on Tuesday, October 13, 2015 at 7:00 p.m. at the COPE House in Eisenhower Park, East Meadow (Field 6A).

 

Yoga means union – the bringing together of all parts of the self – body, mind and spirit.  In the experiences of our lives, we become tense, tired, and fragmented physically, mentally and emotionally.   The fresh awareness that a yoga practice encourages, moves us back toward our centers in order to restore calm, and promote integration.  Using chairs for seated, and standing, gentle, non-competitive Hatha Yoga postures, and breathing techniques, we gradually stretch and tone muscles, release tension, physically, and over-stimulation. Mentally this reunion with the serene self, if practiced consistently, will gradually and subtly change your approach to life.  A chair practice makes yoga well-suited to anyone, and provides security for those with physical conditions or injuries.  Please bring a “sticky” yoga mat (one that provides grippage), and wear comfortable clothing.

Debra Monaco is a certified yoga teacher, and is nationally registered with Yoga Alliance.  She has practiced yoga most of her life, and has been teaching yoga for about 25 years.  Debra’s attention, and work, has always turned toward the fine arts, the healing arts, and mysticism, and as a student of different philosophies, and spiritual practices, yoga is a natural contributor to all of these.  She has studied a wide range of yoga styles, with an even broader variety of respected teachers.  She is an eclectic Hatha Yoga teacher, sharing, and using, her practice to help shed the superfluous, and surrender the blocks that keep us from the natural peace and wisdom within.  We are all too well experienced with trying to get, but learning to release is the consistent, rather relentless, practice that we all – yogi or not – undertake every day.  Doing it with awareness opens our hearts to all that life brings us.

 

RSVP to Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.com by Friday, October 9th. There is a limit of 20 people for the workshop. Please only RSVP if you are fairly certain you can attend as last minute cancelations and no shows make it difficult for us to offer the space to those on the waiting list.

 


 

Camp Erin® NYC – COPE Foundation

For the Latest News About COPE Camp Erin New York City!

August 2015

Hi from Camp Erin NYC,

Year four- bigger, better and life changing!

Summer 2015 saw 52 spectacular campers, 63 wonderful volunteers and great weather thanks to my brother- the meteorologist!!!! It was truly another rewarding and exceptional experience watching the transformation of campers throughout the weekend.

This year’s group of campers were very energetic and absorbed all camp had to offer on every level. They swam, they climbed, they drummed and were creative. They were also passionate and open, allowing themselves to get lost in their grief. Our grief chiefs (trained and licensed social workers) continue to reach the souls of these children by enabling them to express their feelings in ways they have not been able to do previously. With the support of their bunkmates, bunk buddies and grief chiefs, each camper embarked on a journey that left them a little lighter and with an understanding they are not alone.

The common thread through feedback from families is the word “life changing.” We are still humbled every time we read a note from families expressing the effects of the weekend. Our bunk buddies and activity specialists, keep them safe, offer fun and different experiences, some laughs and a listening ear. Our grief chiefs help them build a path out of the darkness so their grief journey is a little easier. It is a team effort and we have an amazing team.

The effects don’t stop at camp. I recently heard from one of our grief chiefs who is a high school social worker. Two campers who attended Camp Erin NYC this past summer attend her school as freshman. Last May, as eighth graders, the girls lost a friend in a tragic car accident. Presently, the girls, together with the social worker, are now mentoring other students in a grief group dealing with the loss of their classmate. “Watching them connect and offer support to the younger girls is so heartwarming and they learned it all at Camp Erin. They often say things in group that I know are direct quotes of what they heard and processed at Camp Erin.” (social worker, Camp Erin NYC)

 

Thanks to the generosity and thoughtfulness of many individuals, Camp Erin continues to reach more and more families each year. The bigger the team, the bigger the difference. We are grateful and appreciative.

 

Gotta go- working on summer 2016!!

 

Best,

Ann

 

Camp Erin New York City- COPE Foundation, a FREE bereavement camp for children ages 6-17 dealing with a major loss, is scheduled for August 28th – 30th, 2015, at Camp Wayne, in PA, on the New York State border. For more information on Camp Erin, volunteering, or for registration materials, please email COPE-Camp Erin New York City Camp Director Ann Fuchs at afuchs@copefoundation.com or 914-552-6919.


 

COPE Walk 13

Sunday, September 27th

Long Beach Boardwalk in Long Beach

Come join us for our 13th annual COPE Walk on Sunday, September 27th from 11:00 a.m. – 1:00 p.m. at the Long Beach Boardwalk in Long Beach. Join us as we walk to honor our children and siblings who have passed, to support members of COPE and encourage their healing, and to expand the organization’s outreach to others in need of help. EVEN IF YOU HAVE NOT PRE-REGISTERED, YOU CAN STILL COME THAT MORNING!

No minimum donation…. give what you can. All walkers will be provided with a t-shirt and will be able to attach a runner’s bib (also provided) on which to put their loved one’s name.

At this point, we ask that you register on site! Just come to the boardwalk at Laurelton Boulevard by 11am and we will register you to walk. THE EVENT IS RAIN OR SHINE! If you have questions, please contact Karen Flyer at Karen@copefoundation.com.

 


Monday Night Parent Support Group Meeting – Merrick

Merrick Jewish Center

Monday, October 5th at 7:00 p.m. SHARP

Join COPE and social worker Judy Hasnas for our South Shore Parent Support Group meeting on Monday, October 5th from 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. SHARP at the Merrick Jewish Center (in the LIBRARY unless otherwise noted) which is located at 225 Fox Boulevard Merrick, NY. This group meets one Monday evening of the month at this time. Judy Hasnas, LCSW, BCD, has a private practice in Bellmore, New York, and facilitated bereavement groups for parents of fire fighters who were killed on 9/11 as part of the Counseling Service Unit, FDNY.  She also worked as an independent contractor at the Steinway Child and Family Service of Howard Beach and was a social work coordinator at Bellevue Hospital Center.

For more information, please email Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.org.


 

Thursday Night Parent Support Group Meeting (2+ Years)

Syosset Library

Thursday, October 8th at 7:00 p.m. SHARP

Join COPE for our Two-Year Plus North Shore Parent Support Group meeting on Thursday, October 8th at 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. SHARP at the Syosset Public Library (225 So. Oyster Bay Road).

COPE will once again be joined by Marilyn Kohn, LCSW, a licensed social worker with a private practice specializing in bereavement counseling and individual and family therapy.  This is a group intended for parents whose loss occurred over two years ago. Newly bereaved parents should feel free to attend one of COPE’s other support groups.

 

The second group, at the Jericho Public Library in Jericho (1 Merry Lane) is now for parents new to COPE.

For more information, please email Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.com.

 


Thursday Night Parent Support Group Meeting (New Parents)

Jericho Library

Thursday, October 22nd at 7:00 p.m. SHARP

Parents NEW TO COPE, please join us for our North Shore Parent Support Group meeting on Thursday, October 22nd from 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. SHARP at the Jericho Public Library (1 Merry Lane in Jericho).

This group, which meets monthly, is facilitated by Marilyn Kohn, LCSW, a licensed social worker with a private practice specializing in bereavement counseling and individual and family therapy. This is for parents NEW TO COPE, as Marilyn’s other Thursday and Monday groups are filled at this time.

For more information, please email Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.com.


Monday Night Parent Support Group Meeting – East Meadow

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

Monday, October 5th and Monday, October 19th at 7:30 p.m. SHARP

The Monday night COPE North Shore group will meet this month on Monday, October 5th and Monday, October 19th from 7:30 – 9:00 p.m. This group will be facilitated by Marilyn Kohn, LCSW, and will be held at the COPE House in Eisenhower Park, East Meadow NY at Field 6A. For directions, please visit our website at www.copefoundation.org or email karen@copefoundation.org. This group is FILLED so all parents new to COPE should plan on attending the Thursday night Jericho group.

For more information, please email Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.com.


Wednesday Night Parent Support Group Meeting –Dix Hills

The Chai Center in Dix Hills

Wednesday, October 14th at 7:00 p.m. SHARP

Please join COPE and social worker Denise Fields for our Parent Support Group in Suffolk County, at the Chai Center in Dix Hills (501 Vanderbilt Parkway). This group meets next on Wednesday, October 14th at 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. Denise has a private psychotherapy practice in Dix Hills, specializing in bereavement.  She previously was a consultant to the Huntington School district, and ran bereavement groups for the Family Service League in Huntington.  The group normally meets the second Wednesday evening of every month from 7:00-8:30 p.m.

For more information, please email Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.com.

 


 

Friday Night Parent Support Group Meeting – Ronkonkoma

United Methodist Church in Ronkonkoma

Friday, October 30th at 7:00 p.m. SHARP

Please join COPE and social worker Lisa Vitucci for our NEW Central Suffolk County Parent Support Group at the United Methodist Church in Ronkonkoma (792 Hawkins Avenue Lake Grove, NY 11755, 631-588-5856). This group will meet next on Friday, October 30th at 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. Lisa has more than ten years’ experience as a bereavement social worker for a hospice agency and is currently the Director of Social Work at ProHEALTH Care Support. Lisa can be reached with any questions at 516-808-5821.

For more information or to express interest in this group, please email Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.com.

 


Tuesday Night Parent Support Group – NYC

1177 Avenue of the Americas @46th Street

On Hiatus

The New York City parent group, facilitated by social worker Bridgette Boucher, which met on the second Tuesday of every month at 1177 Avenue of the Americas at 46th Street floor C-2, Suite 0020 from 7:00-8:30 p.m. is CURRENTLY ON HIATUS awaiting additional interest. If you know of anyone interested in this group, please contact COPE Clinical Director Amy Olshever at amyolshever@copefoundation.com.

 

Bridgette is currently a family therapist working with the Sloan Kettering Cancer Center and has a private practice in New York City. She was previously a therapist for the Ackerman Institute for the Family, treating families dealing with grief, substance abuse, domestic violence, trauma and relationship problems. For more information, please email Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.com or contact Bridgette directly at boucher9175@gmail.com.

 

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NEW Tuesday DAYTIME Parent Support Group Meeting – East Meadow

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

Tuesday, October 6th at 1:00 p.m. SHARP

The NEW DAYTIME Parent Support Group which normally meets the first Tuesday of the month at the COPE House at Eisenhower Park (Field 6A) in East Meadow will meet next on Tuesday, October 6th from 1:00 – 2:30 p.m. The group is facilitated by licensed social worker Janet Zimmerman. Janet is currently in private practice as a psychotherapist. She previously ran bereavement groups for the Mid-Island JCC and has been a social worker for almost 40 years. For more information or to express your interest, please contact Amy Olshever, COPE Clinical Director, at 516-418-6606.

 

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COPE Grandparents Group, East Meadow

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

Meets Bi-Monthly – Next Meeting is November 10th

COPE has started up a new group for bereaved parents who have lost adult children with children. This group will meet next on Tuesday, November 10th from 6:30-8:00 p.m. and will be facilitated by Lisa Vitucci. Parents will discuss the dynamics involved dealing with grandchildren and their surviving parent and share their stories and issues they may have in this different family relationship. Suggestions can be made as to how to deal with these issues Lisa has more than ten years’ experience as a bereavement social worker for a hospice agency and is currently the Director of Social Work at ProHEALTH Care Support. Lisa can be reached with any questions at 516-808-5821.

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Saturday Morning Adult Sibling Support Group – NYC

274 Madison Ave. Manhattan

Meets Quarterly – October 17th

The Saturday COPE young adult sibling support group in Manhattan facilitated by licensed social worker Amy Kirschenblatt is currently meeting next on Saturday, October 17th at 10:30am at the offices of tmg Media (274 Madison Avenue, Room 1202). This is a new location, right next to Chipolte. To RSVP, please email Karen Flyer at Karen@copefoundation.com or you may contact Amy Kirschenblatt directly at amysross@aol.com. This group will meet quarterly going forward.

 

Amy Kirschenblatt is currently a social worker with North Shore Hospital System/LIJ Forest Hills Hospital PCAP. She was previously a school social worker for the New York City Board of Ed.

 

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Monday Night Adult Sibling Support Group – East Meadow

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

Monday, October 26th at 7:00 p.m.

Please join COPE for our adult sibling group on Long Island on Monday, October 26th from 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. at the COPE House in East Meadow. For directions, please visit our website at www.copefoundation.org or email karen@copefoundation.org. The group will be facilitated by licensed social worker Amy Kirschenblatt. Amy is currently a social worker with North Shore Hospital System/LIJ Forest Hills Hospital PCAP. She was previously a school social worker for the New York City Board of Ed. For more information, please email Karen Flyer at Karen@copefoundation.org.

 

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Teen Loss Support Group (13-17)

COPE House in East Meadow

Next meeting: October 8th

Teens who have lost a sibling, parent, or significant loved one…. If you are interested in attending the new COPE Teen Loss Group the second Thursday evening of every month at 7:00 p.m. at the COPE House in East Meadow, please express your interest to Clinical Director Amy Olshever at 516-418-6606. The next meeting of the group will be October 8, 2015 at 7:00 p.m.

 

The group is facilitated by licensed social worker Jennifer Plunkett.   Jennifer is currently a psychotherapist with a private practice in Huntington where she specializes in treating adolescents, and an adjunct instructor at Suffolk Community College where she teaches courses in Child & Adolescent Psychology. Jennifer previously served as a bereavement specialist at Good Shepherd Hospice. There will also be a weekly social media component involved between the meetings. There is no cost to participate in this program.

 

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Young Children’s Grief Support Group (Ages ~7-12)

COPE House in East Meadow

First meeting: October 7th at 6:30 p.m.

Please join COPE for our NEW Children’s Grief Support Group for kids ages 7-12 living with the loss of a loved one. The group will meet weekly for 7 weeks from 6:30 – 7:45 p.m. (beginning 10/7/15) at the COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A). The group will be facilitated by licensed social worker Michelle Donovan, LMSW. Michelle is a licensed social worker, currently working in the Long Beach, NY school district as a leave replacement social worker at Lindell Elementary School. Michelle previously was a student at Good Shepherd Hospice where she co-led general bereavement groups for adults and a “Connections” Children’s Bereavement Group. She has also served as a personal care aide and a special education one to one aide for children ages 8-13.

 

Participation is free. For more information, or to express interest, please contact Amy Olshever, COPE Clinical Director, at 516-418-6606 or amyolshever@copefoundation.com

 

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Art Workshop for Parents

Monday, October 12th at 12:30 p.m.

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

The COPE Art Workshop will meet on Monday, October 12th from 12:30 p.m. – 2:00 p.m. at the COPE House in Eisenhower Park in East Meadow. You do NOT have to be an artist or have artistic “talent” to participate. For more information or to RSVP, please email Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.com. Facilitated by COPE Founder and President Lilly Julien.

 

Spiritual Circle

Wednesday, October 21st at 7:30 p.m.

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

The Spirituality Circle will be held this month on Wednesday, October 21st from 7:30 p.m. – 9:00 p.m. at the COPE House in Eisenhower Park in East Meadow.  Since space is limited please RSVP.

 

Spirituality Circle meetings are hosted by COPE President and Founder Lilly Julien. COPE hopes that all parents interested in spirituality as an integral part of the healing process will attend these monthly get-togethers. Some months will include guest speakers and healers. If you have any questions, please contact Lilly Julien at ljulien5@gmail.com.

 

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Community Events

Please contact Karen Flyer at Karen@copefoundation.com with any community healing events to list in our newsletter.

 

Forever Family Event:

Kim Russo Presents: A Celestial Evening of Spirit Communication – Joined by Joe Perreta

When

Saturday October 24, 2015 from 7:00 PM to 10:30 PM EDT

 

Where

Long Island University – Post Campus –

Hillwood Lecture Hall

Hillwood Commons

700 Northern Boulevard

Brookville, NY 11548

Advanced Paid Registration (will end at midnight on 10/23):

 

Please be certain before making your reservations. As an all volunteer not for profit, Forever Family must maintain a policy of no refunds for paid advance reservations.

Members Only: $25*

Non-Members: $35

At the Door pricing, if seating still available:

Members Only: $35*

Non-Members: $45

 

* To Qualify for the Member Only Rate, you must have been a member of Forever Family Foundation for at least 30 days before making your reservation.

 

If interested, contact

Phran Ginsberg

Forever Family Foundation, Inc.

631-425-7707

events@foreverfamilyfoundation.org

foreverfamily.org

 

CancerCare:

CancerCare is offering a free 15-week online support group in partnership with the Pediatric Brain Tumor Foundation, for adult family members grieving the loss of a child from a brain tumor. The group will be open to all adult family members including parents, grandparents, and other extended family members who are within three years of their loss. The group is slated to begin in early October, but will accept members on a rolling basis through the middle of December. To register, please visit CancerCare’s website:

http://www.cancercare.org/support_groups/124

For further information about this online group, contact Caroline Edlund, LCSW, OSW-C, Online Support Group Program Director, CancerCare at 212-712-6128.

 

COPE Individual Support, or “Buddy System”

For those bereaved parents and siblings not ready for a support group, or who wish to augment their support group experience with individual support, COPE offers a “buddy system.” If you are in need of a buddy (a parent or sibling who shares your particular loss), OR if you wish to act as a buddy to a newly bereaved parent or sibling, please contact Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.com. Peer support is truly at the heart of COPE!

 

COPE Donations

 

We thank the following people for making general donations to COPE during the months of (late) August 2015 and September 2015:

 

  • Gail and Craig Perna in honor of Eddie Garcia’s birthday
  • Charity Partners Foundation
  • Pine Hollow Country Club
  • Jeanne & William Dione in memory of Jesse Radowitz
  • Patti & Dave Greenberg in memory of Sharon Gallucci
             
COPE thanks everyone who made donations to Camp Erin during the months of (late) August 2015 and September 2015:

 

  • Erin McCarthy
  • Tal Erez in memory of Eric Vandercar
  • The Bernard and Ruth Rothfeld Children’s Foundation
  • Kathy & Howard Kraus
  • Marc J. Siegel & Gail E Wagner Family Charitable Fund
  • Rona & Chuck Machlin
  • Lennah Mbala

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If you no longer wish to receive these newsletters, please email Karen Flyer at Karen@copefoundation.org.

 

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Karen Flyer

Executive Director, COPE

P.O. Box 1251

Melville, NY 11747

Tel: (516) 484-4993, Fax: 516-484-4885

Email: karen@copefoundation.org

www.copefoundation.org