The Next Level of Healing is Helping

The best way to not feel hopeless is to get up and do something. Don’t wait for good things to happen to you. If you go out and make some good things happen, you will fill the world with hope, you will fill yourself with hope.

~ Barack Obama

You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late . . . the love of our neighbor in all its fullness simply means being able to say to him, ‘What are you going through?’

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Depending upon where you are in your personal grief journey, you may come to a point when you feel that you want to channel your pain, and the time and energy you once devoted and invested in the relationship with your loved one, into something productive and meaningful. You might want to do this through the gift of volunteering. Because you are someone who truly understands the grieving process, you may feel that you are ready to reach out to others who are suffering the pain of loss. As you find your own way through the many challenges of grief, you have a great deal to share with others who are suffering: you can identify with their struggles, empathize with their sorrows and doubts, and offer valuable information and support. You can do this by attending a support group and sharing your successful strategies for coping. You might want to be a peer mentor or a COPE Line volunteer. You may want to give of yourself, but not directly with other grievers. You may want to pursue personal interests, polish old skills and learn new ones, while making a positive difference in your community. Fundraising to support a cause or organization that you find meaningful can also be very satisfying. Finding a way to make meaning as you navigate through your grief journey can be a very beneficial part of the healing process.