Dear COPE Families,
Holidays are a time when we may find ourselves struggling or even wrestling with our thoughts and emotions. We may feel that things must be done in a certain way or not at all. When we become aware that the struggle we are having is with ourselves, we can open ourselves to understanding that we have options. We can choose to do what feels safe and comfortable. We are likely to discover that we are resisting holiday plans, shopping, decorating, parties, because we are feeling the loss of a part of ourselves.
Emotions of anxiety, confusion, and vulnerability, have a way of creeping up on me.
I become overwhelmed as the days become shorter, the temperatures are dropping, and the time of year is closing in on me. My grief just sits there and I watch it.
I try to feel gratitude for all the blessings in my life while I feel sadness for the part of me that’s lost. That part of me is with those who are no longer here.
I attempt to find glimpses of them in those who remain. I try to accept myself for being where I am, embracing the joy of those near and the pain of those absent. I hold on to the love that is forever present in my heart, a love that can never die.
Wishing each of you the love and support that brings you peace this holiday season.
Lilly
COPE President and Founder
