Lillian Julien
Founder
In 1992, Lilly Julien’s 20-year-old daughter, Michelle, lost her life in a car accident. With her husband, Robert, and two surviving children, Spencer & Greer, Lilly struggled to rebuild her life after the devastation of losing a child.
Inspired by a dream visitation from her daughter, Michelle, Lilly founded the COPE Foundation, a nonprofit grief organization dedicated to supporting parents and families living with the loss of a child.
Since 1999, Lilly’s vision has guided COPE and its expanding grief support programs. An exhibited painter and portrait artist, she has facilitated many of COPE’s art therapy programs.
Lillian Julien
President Emerita
In 1992, Lilly Julien’s 20-year-old daughter, Michelle, lost her life in a car accident. With her husband, Robert, and two surviving children, Spencer & Greer, Lilly struggled to rebuild her life after the devastation of losing a child.
Inspired by a dream visitation from her daughter, Michelle, Lilly founded the COPE Foundation, a nonprofit grief organization dedicated to supporting parents and families living with the loss of a child.
Since 1999, Lilly’s vision has guided COPE and its expanding grief support programs. An exhibited painter and portrait artist, she has facilitated many of COPE’s art therapy programs.
After losing her husband in 2000, she spearheaded the inauguration of COPE Camp Erin NYC in 2011, in partnership with Eluna (f/k/a the Moyer Foundation) —a free weekend bereavement camp for children ages 7 to 17 grieving the loss of a parent or sibling—with a concurrent parent retreat started in 2015.
Lilly Julien and I. J. Weinstock have presented workshops at Compassionate Friends and Camp Widow bereavement conferences.
Lilly is the co-author of Grief Quest: A Journal & Workbook to Heal the Grieving Parent's Heart which was named a Finalist in the USA Best Books of 2012.
Awards include:
- 2008 inductee into Long Island Volunteer Hall of Fame as Founder of COPE
- March 8, 2010, Ben Appelbaum Foundation Recognition Award
- May 11, 2014, received The Roger E. Joseph Prize on behalf of COPE-Camp Erin NYC for its contribution to children's grief
- May 3, 2016 recipient of Long Island Imagine Awards recognizing innovation and leadership in the nonprofit sector
Co-Founders
Judy Berg
Co-Founders
Judy Berg grew up in Lexington, Kentucky and graduated University of Wisconsin- BS in art history and fine arts. She moved to NYC 1967 and was a buyer for Montgomery Ward and Lane Bryant 1967-1972. She married Richard Berg 1972 and had two children, Erica born 1974. David born 1976.
Judy served as co-PTA president at Sunquam Elementary School and has been a resident of Melville, 1976 - present. She joined Temple Beth Torah in 1978 and served as a Board member and co-chair of Social Action committee.
She worked as a part time patient care coordinator for Plainview Oral Surgery from 1985-2016
Judy lost her son, David, in a skiing accident on January 19, 1972. She supported Lilly and BJ Julien as co-founders of COPE (Connecting our Paths Eternally). She has served as a member of the Board of Directors from 1999-present and as treasurer from 2000-2015
Judy’s grandchildren are Benjamin [2009] and Eli [2011], children of Erica Berg Gavin and Douglas Gavin.
JUDY BERG
Co-Founder
Richard Berg
Co-Founder
Richard grew up in Woodmere, NY. He attended Lawrence High School and the University of Rochester, receiving B.A. in psychology, general science, and pre-dental. He attended NYU College of Dentistry, in 1967.
Richard completed oral surgery residency LIJ medical center, 1970. He was a founding partner, Plainview and Massapequa Oral & Maxillofacial Associates, p.c. 1972-2011
Richard is an assistant professor of clinical oral & maxillofacial surgery, 1974-present, at Stonybrook University School of Dental Medicine and has done volunteer teaching at Stonybrook Dental, 1970-present.
He married Judy Schwartz in 1972 and had two children, Erica born 1974 and David born 1976. He has been a resident of Melville 1976-present and joined Temple Beth Torah in 1978.
Richard lost his son, David, in a skiing accident on January 19, 1972. He supported Lilly and BJ Julien as co-founders of COPE (Connecting our Paths Eternally). He has served as a member of the Board of Directors from 1999-present.
Richard’s grandchildren are Benjamin [2009] and Eli [2011], children of Erica Berg Gavin and Douglas Gavin
RICHARD BERG
Co-Founder
PATTI GREENBERG
Co-Founder
Board of Directors
Larry R. Mergentime
Co-President
Larry is a member of the real estate law firm of Rosenberg & Estis, P.C. in New York City practicing in real estate transactions and development. Larry was introduced to COPE in 2009 following the sudden loss of his 3-year-old daughter Samantha.
Larry’s family started Sammi’s Circle Charitable Fund following Samantha’s passing as a way of remembering Sammi’s gentle spirit and to ensure that her kindness is passed on to those in need. Sammi’s Circle quickly became an active supporter of COPE. Larry’s introduction and exposure to monthly group therapy sessions with COPE and his support of their mission has led him to take a more active leadership role within the organization.
Larry joined the board of directors in 2016 and serves as Co-President. Larry lives on Long Island with his wife and 2 sons and is passionate about music and college sports.
Larry’s goal is to help improve the lives of families that have suffered a loss by encouraging their healing and to expand the organization’s outreach.
Larry Mergentime
Co-President
Jennifer Schwartz
Co-President
Jen Schwartz graduated Long Island University at CW Post in 2007 with a Master's Degree in School and Mental Health Counseling and holds a Bachelor's Degree in English and Psychology from Lehigh University. During her graduate school internship, Jen co-facilitated a bereavement support group for middle school students who had expressed a need for a space to talk about their losses and the impact it had on them.
In 2008, Jen started working as an educational advocate for the Long Island Advocacy Center, assisting students with disabilities who were involved in the juvenile justice system, to obtain the appropriate educational services to be successful in school. In 2012, Jen co-wrote a youth-centered curriculum and co-facilitated groups for teens with behavioral and/or emotional difficulties. LEAP (Learning, Exploring, Advocating, and Persevering) focused on helping teens to become more self-aware and to develop helpful communication skills so they could become self-advocates. In 2014, Jen started a second job as the Youth Engagement Director for the North Shore Jewish Center where she creates and implements programs for the synagogue's youth groups. In 2015, Jen started jGAY! (Jewish Gay and Allied Youth), the first support group on Long Island for Jewish LGBTQ+ youth and families.
When Jen's older brother passed suddenly in July 2016, she attended her first COPE sibling support group. She remembers feeling more connected to a group of strangers than to anyone else in her life at that time. She continues to attend the Long Island sibling group monthly, not because of her individual 'need' to attend, but because she knows there will always be someone new starting the group and if people stopped attending once they felt they didn't 'need' it, then who would be there for the next person to show up? Jen currently serves on COPE's Family Advisory and Program Committees and became a COPE Ambassador in December 2020.
Jennifer Schwartz
Co-President
Lillian Julien
President Emerita
In 1992, Lilly Julien’s 20-year-old daughter, Michelle, lost her life in a car accident. With her husband, Robert, and two surviving children, Spencer & Greer, Lilly struggled to rebuild her life after the devastation of losing a child.
Inspired by a dream visitation from her daughter, Michelle, Lilly founded the COPE Foundation, a nonprofit grief organization dedicated to supporting parents and families living with the loss of a child.
Since 1999, Lilly’s vision has guided COPE and its expanding grief support programs. An exhibited painter and portrait artist, she has facilitated many of COPE’s art therapy programs.
After losing her husband in 2000, she spearheaded the inauguration of COPE Camp Erin NYC in 2011, in partnership with Eluna (f/k/a the Moyer Foundation) —a free weekend bereavement camp for children ages 7 to 17 grieving the loss of a parent or sibling—with a concurrent parent retreat started in 2015.
Lilly Julien and I. J. Weinstock have presented workshops at Compassionate Friends and Camp Widow bereavement conferences.
Lilly is the co-author of Grief Quest: A Journal & Workbook to Heal the Grieving Parent's Heart which was named a Finalist in the USA Best Books of 2012.
Awards include:
- 2008 inductee into Long Island Volunteer Hall of Fame as Founder of COPE
- March 8, 2010, Ben Appelbaum Foundation Recognition Award
- May 11, 2014, received The Roger E. Joseph Prize on behalf of COPE-Camp Erin NYC for its contribution to children's grief
- May 3, 2016 recipient of Long Island Imagine Awards recognizing innovation and leadership in the nonprofit sector
Lillian Julien
President Emerita
Sherry Radowitz, Ph.D.
Co-Treasurer
Dr. Sherry Radowitz has been an administrator in the Office of Advancement at Molloy College
since 2005. As Director of Grants & Sponsored Programs, she is responsible for seeking grant support through government, foundations, and corporations to support campus programs, research projects, recruitment efforts, scholarships, professional development, and capital expansion and managing a range of grant-funded initiatives. Sherry also serves as early childhood consultant for Molloy’s School of Education. In 2016, she received the Distinguished Service Award for her many contributions to the college.
With more than 45 years in the human services field, previous positions include Senior Vice-President of Community Agency Services at United Way of Long Island, first Executive Director of the Women’s Fund of Long Island, and Deputy Director of both Child Care Council of Nassau and Child Care Council of Suffolk. Sherry has also been a research, management, and grant-writing consultant to many nonprofit organizations on Long Island.
As an active community leader, volunteer roles include co-founder of Nassau County Coalition Against Domestic Violence (now The Safe Center LI) and Long Island Volunteer Hall of Fame; co-president and treasurer of National Association of Mothers’ Centers; and treasurer of the COPE Foundation since 2012. A strong advocate of family support, Sherry has received numerous honors for her community work. She continues to share her expertise by presenting at conferences, facilitating workshops, and serving as a mentor to both professionals and students.
Sherry Radowitz, PhD
Co-Treasurer
Barbara O'Malley
Co-Treasurer
Barbara O'Malley grew up on Long Island and is a 1990 graduate of St. John's University School of Law. She also holds a Bachelor's Degree in Business Management from Hofstra University. While attending law school in the evenings, Barbara handled customer relations for an international airline, and upon graduation began working as an Associate at an aviation firm in NYC where she represented international airlines clients in both state and federal court. Thereafter, Barbara transitioned to an in-house position at an international insurance company where she held positions of increasing responsibility over a ten-year period. In the years that followed, she held additional in-house roles including that of Senior Counsel at a financial services company, General Counsel for a privately held real estate franchisor, and an executive level position at an international labor and employment firm headquartered in Atlanta. Her legal career spans more than 30 years.
In 2014, Barbara was faced with the sudden and unexpected loss of her 36-year-old son. She relied heavily on the resources provided by COPE and has always been grateful for the support provided by the organization. As someone who is a firm believer in giving back, Barbara became involved with various committees and helped to develop COPE's Ambassador Program. The Ambassador Program is comprised of like-minded individuals who have lost a child or sibling and expressed an interest in giving back to the organization.
Barbara joined the Board of Directors in 2020 and is a member of the Executive Committee, as well as the Co-Treasurer. She enjoys traveling and spending time with family and friends.
Barbara O’Malley
Co-Treasurer
Scott Haber
Scott Haber lost his 34-year-old sister Elana Haber April 5th, 2020. Elana passed away from fentanyl laced drugs. She had such a bright future ahead of her and was the best sister. During the height of covid and the world in quarantine Scott found a COPE group which he joined May 2020. Almost 3 years later he still attends monthly groups. The groups are a blessing as you are with people who are going through the same thing. COPE has taught Scott that everyone grieves in their own way.
In December 2022 Scott joined COPE as a board member. His mission is to make others aware that COPE exists and help make it more accessible to people that are experiencing loss. Scott is now the chair of fundraising and will continue to help others.
Scott Haber
Jennifer Webb
Jennifer Webb is a life-long special educator, mother, and devoted family member. She has dedicated her career to the special needs community, along with raising 3 children and serving on the COPE Board.
Jenn graduated from St. Joseph’s University in the Spring of 2003 with her Bachelor’s Degree in Child Studies with a dual certification in General and Special Education. She later earned her Masters Degree in Literacy from Long Island University in 2005.
Jenn began her career in special education as a teacher at BOCES Rosemary Kennedy School, then as a special education teacher at the West Islip School District. Early in Jenn’s career, she was accepted into the Fulbright Teaching Excellence and Achievement Program, a selective program for US teachers and administrators to travel abroad to learn new educational practices, develop authentic global content, and share their pedagogical expertise. Later, after marrying her husband who was serving on active duty in the US Army, she continued her career as a special education teacher for the Department of Defense in Fort Campbell, KY.
In February of 2017 Jenn learned the tragic news that her brother, Tommy, was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer. After an incredible fight, Tommy lost his battle in September 2017.
Jenn reached out to COPE one month after Tommy’s passing. After coming home from her first sibling bereavement group she recalled “that was the most comfort I have felt in a month.” For the years that followed, Jenn made her Sibling Bereavement Group a priority in her busy schedule. Simply stated, it was the only place where she felt that her grief was truly understood and seen. Years later when Jenn was invited to join the COPE Board, she jumped at the opportunity. Jenn is eternally grateful for the COPE community, including facilitators and sibling bereavers, and was elated at the opportunity to give back to COPE.
As a tribute to her brother, Jenn named her latest endeavor “Tommy’s Friends,” which is an educational company that offers curriculum based classes for individuals with and without disabilities.
Jennifer currently lives on Long Island with her husband and 3 children. She is passionate about traveling, her family, and enriching the lives of her community through Tommy’s Friends and the COPE family.
Jenn Webb
Doug Newton
Judy Berg
Co-Founders
Judy Berg grew up in Lexington, Kentucky and graduated University of Wisconsin- BS in art history and fine arts. She moved to NYC 1967 and was a buyer for Montgomery Ward and Lane Bryant 1967-1972. She married Richard Berg 1972 and had two children, Erica born 1974. David born 1976.
Judy served as co-PTA president at Sunquam Elementary School and has been a resident of Melville, 1976 - present. She joined Temple Beth Torah in 1978 and served as a Board member and co-chair of Social Action committee.
She worked as a part time patient care coordinator for Plainview Oral Surgery from 1985-2016
Judy lost her son, David, in a skiing accident on January 19, 1972. She supported Lilly and BJ Julien as co-founders of COPE (Connecting our Paths Eternally). She has served as a member of the Board of Directors from 1999-present and as treasurer from 2000-2015
Judy’s grandchildren are Benjamin [2009] and Eli [2011], children of Erica Berg Gavin and Douglas Gavin.
JUDY BERG
Richard Berg
Co-Founder
Richard grew up in Woodmere, NY. He attended Lawrence High School and the University of Rochester, receiving B.A. in psychology, general science, and pre-dental. He attended NYU College of Dentistry, in 1967.
Richard completed oral surgery residency LIJ medical center, 1970. He was a founding partner, Plainview and Massapequa Oral & Maxillofacial Associates, p.c. 1972-2011
Richard is an assistant professor of clinical oral & maxillofacial surgery, 1974-present, at Stonybrook University School of Dental Medicine and has done volunteer teaching at Stonybrook Dental, 1970-present.
He married Judy Schwartz in 1972 and had two children, Erica born 1974 and David born 1976. He has been a resident of Melville 1976-present and joined Temple Beth Torah in 1978.
Richard lost his son, David, in a skiing accident on January 19, 1972. He supported Lilly and BJ Julien as co-founders of COPE (Connecting our Paths Eternally). He has served as a member of the Board of Directors from 1999-present.
Richard’s grandchildren are Benjamin [2009] and Eli [2011], children of Erica Berg Gavin and Douglas Gavin
RICHARD BERG
Ron Jasser
Bill Slovin
Judy Berg
Co-Founders
Judy Berg grew up in Lexington, Kentucky and graduated University of Wisconsin- BS in art history and fine arts. She moved to NYC 1967 and was a buyer for Montgomery Ward and Lane Bryant 1967-1972. She married Richard Berg 1972 and had two children, Erica born 1974. David born 1976.
Judy served as co-PTA president at Sunquam Elementary School and has been a resident of Melville, 1976 - present. She joined Temple Beth Torah in 1978 and served as a Board member and co-chair of Social Action committee.
She worked as a part time patient care coordinator for Plainview Oral Surgery from 1985-2016
Judy lost her son, David, in a skiing accident on January 19, 1972. She supported Lilly and BJ Julien as co-founders of COPE (Connecting our Paths Eternally). She has served as a member of the Board of Directors from 1999-present and as treasurer from 2000-2015
Judy’s grandchildren are Benjamin [2009] and Eli [2011], children of Erica Berg Gavin and Douglas Gavin.
Steve Reisman
Leadership Team
Adam Rabinovitch
Executive Director
Claire Sharkey, LCSW
Clinical & Program Director
Ann Fuchs
Camp Erin NYC Director
Stephanie Heitkemper, MA, MFT, LPC, RPT, FT
Camp Erin NYC Clinical Director
Marianne Bujacich
Financial Officer
Patricia Cocchiarelli
Financial Administrator
Michaela McBride
Communications and Marketing Manager
Laura Hull
Grants Consultant
Support Group Facilitators
Barbara Goldstein
LCSW
Carly Bergstein
LCSW
Janet Zimmerman
LCSW-R
Lauren Jukofsky
LCSW
Marilyn Kohn
LMSW
Mary Ann Stein
LMSW
Michelle Graff
LCSW
Natalia Echeverri
LMSW, C-ASWCM
Rashida Sanchez
MA, LMSW, FT
Rhonda Ryan
LMSW