COPE February Newsletter



Words from COPE President and Founder Lilly Julien


Dear COPE Families:


It’s just days before the anniversary of the date that both my daughter and husband passed. I am vacationing away from the bitter cold and snow in New York, yet I’m not fully here. My thoughts are a distraction—they torment me. I am unable to find the calm until I stop resisting and cry my tears.


And after the tears, I experience a stillness. In the quiet I see a heart in the air. I focus on that heart and I begin to feel the warm breeze and sense the break in the clouds. In the sunny embrace of a clearing blue sky, I can feel how much they would love it here.


I start remembering what they loved, what I love, and what we loved together. The connection comes through the love, not the pain. What I need to remember is the good, not the painful memories.


I realize the need to balance my suffering with what brings me comfort, and not feel obliged to do only that which makes me sad. I need to honor my loved ones through doing what they enjoyed and what ultimately might bring me comfort.


For all the anguish, pain and suffering I’ve known, I deserve a mandatory week of comfort. Though I know it’s easier said than done, I aspire to make anniversaries a Comfort Day, as opposed to a day in which all the pain rises to the surface.


Wishing that each of you find that warm place of comfort and love inside of you…





COPE Healing Tip of the Month


“Let the joy of your loved one’s life begin to take the place of the hurt and anger of the death.”

—Darcie D.Sims


Remembering everything you can about your child or your sibling is a way to balance the pain-grief connection with a love connection. The simple act of recording your memories is a tribute to your child or sibling and the love and life you shared.

Grief Quest-A Workbook & Journal

—Lilly Julien


Please Support our Organization

Please help COPE continue to provide support by making a donation. Any donation can be made in tribute to a particular child or loved one. To donate on line, please click here to visit our donation page, or you can send in a check to COPE at P.O. Box 1251, Melville, NY 11747. COPE thanks you for your support.



February COPE Calendar of Events (see details below)


February Workshops:

10        COPE Monday Parent Support Group Meeting– North Shore (COPE House: 7:30pm)

10        COPE Parent Support Group Meeting – South Shore (Merrick Jewish Center: 7:00pm)

11        COPE NYC Parent Support Group (1177 Ave of Americas in Manhattan: 7:00pm)

11        COPE Suicide Survivors Group for Parents & Siblings (COPE House: 7:00pm)

12        COPE Art Therapy (Lilly Julien’s House: 12:30pm)

12        COPE Suffolk County Support Group in Dix Hills (Chai Center: 7:00pm)

13        COPE Parent Support Group Meeting – North Shore (Jericho Library: 7:00pm)

17        COPE Long Island Young Adult Sibling Group (COPE House: 7:00pm)

18        COPE Parent Support Group Meeting – East Meadow (Temple Emanuel: 7:30pm)

19        COPE Spirituality Circle (Lilly Julien’s: 7:30pm)

22        COPE Young Adult Sibling Group in NYC (Candice Goldberg’s office: 11:00am)

24        COPE Monday Parent Support Group Meeting– North Shore (COPE House: 7:30pm)

26        COPE Parent Writing Workshop (COPE House: 7:00pm)

27        COPE Parent Support Group Meeting – North Shore (Syosset Library: 7:00pm)





‘i carry your heart’ by E.E. Cummings


i carry your heart with me (i carry it in

my heart) i am never without it (anywhere

i go you go, my dear; and whatever is done

by only me is your doing, my darling)


i fear no fate (for you are my fate, my sweet) i want

no world (for beautiful you are my world, my true)

and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant

and whatever a sun will always sing is you


here is the deepest secret nobody knows

(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud

and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows

higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)

and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart


i carry your heart (i carry it in my heart)


COPE Book Corner

On Life After Death

by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, MD

Simon & Schuster, Re-released 2008


Reviewed by Forever Family: On Life after Death, written by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, was re-released in 2008, four years after her death. Kübler-Ross is a well-respected and internationally known author and doctor, famous for her 1970’s landmark work on the stages of grief in On Death and Dying.


On Life after Death cemented my belief in the afterlife. Dr. Kübler-Ross writes with personal knowledge from her work with thousands of dying patients. The stories of people who touched her heart, or had incredible stories to tell, are woven into a series of four essays drawn directly from four lectures she presented in person. Some of these lectures were told at a time when the possibility of life after death was too extreme, and the simple subject of death was taboo. People simply didn’t want to know about death or even be near it. Kübler-Ross broke that taboo through her sincerity and passion working with her terminal patients, and it is that passion which is reflected in her written work.


These days, many of us not only want to talk about grief when a family member dies, but hope that our loved ones who have passed are still around in some connected form.


To answer our wish, Kübler-Ross provides her own anecdotal proof of life after death through detailed accounts kept while attending to her dying patients. After many years of doctoring, the similarities in her patients’ stories have convinced her that death is a transition to another form of life. The variety in her stories is entertaining and reassuring, and I wanted to keep reading just to connect with her life and the many lessons she has to teach about death. Many recalled the doctor’s conversations after their heart stopped beating. They saw things happen from a different perspective, including seeing themselves and the medical staff while hovering above. Of those that were revived after a clinical death, many spoke of the overwhelming peace they felt on the other side. They also let her know that they were not alone in death. Some reached the epiphany that material possessions just aren’t that important; the only thing that was important was love.


To purchase the book though Centering Corporation, please click here. Please enter the coupon code “COPE” where it asks for “Input Coupon or Promotional Code”. Doing so will enable 10% of your purchases to be directed back to COPE.


If you have a book to recommend which you think will help our families along their path of healing, please email Karen Flyer at


COPE and Centering Corporation

COPE has partnered with the Centering Corporation to provide you with easy access to grief resources through our website. Centering Corporation is a non-profit organization dedicated to providing education and resources for the bereaved. With resources on adult grief, death of a child, infant loss, children’s grief, as well as a host of grief-related products, Centering Corporation’s goal is, “We give you support. We give you information. We give you hope.”


You can easily access Centering Corporations vast array of resource from the home page of COPE’s website, the left or top tool bar where is says, “Grief Resource Center”.


When checking out on the Centering Corporation’s website, COPE hopes that you will enter the coupon code “COPE” where it asks for “Input Coupon or Promotional Code”. Doing so will enable 10% of your purchases to be directed back to COPE to help fund the grief support programs we offer parents, siblings and families living with the loss of a child. COPE thanks you for your support.


COPE has published its very own Kindle book on how bereaved parents can COPE with their loss! The Kindle book, “COPING WITH THE LOSS OF A CHILD: Strategies for Living with Loss & How Friends Can Help” is available on Amazon.



Birthdays & Passings

In the month of February, we remember the following loved ones who were taken from us before their time:



1    Brad Stoll (birthday), son of Lucy & Howard Stoll

Troy Gable (2011, passing), son of Regina Gable

2    Shaun Tolan (2011, passing), son of John & Janis Tolan and brother of Sherry Carpenito

Jordyn Fisher (1994, birthday), daughter of Beth & Dick Fisher

3    Delbert White (1962, birthday), son of Howard & Annie White

Randie Delmont (2008, passing), daughter of Joel & Shelley Switko

Kieran McCaffrey (2008, passing), son of John & Tara McCaffrey

Edward Ennis (1988, birthday), son of Paula Nolan

4    Michael Jarosz (2012, passing), son of Angela & John Jarosz

5    Robert Moss (1987, birthday), son of Bob & Krista Moss

Karissa Volpe (2011, passing), daughter of Karen Volpe

Robert Carpinelli (2012, passing), son of Linda Carpinelli

Andrew Torres (1994, birthday), son of Benjamin Torres

6    David McKey (1950, birthday), son of Gerry McKey

Larry Gnolfo (2001, passing), son of Coral & Jim Gnolfo

Terry C. Long, Jr. (1982, birthday), brother of Jen Gaynor

7    Michael Long (1975, birthday), son of Ariella Long

Dawn Leslie (1990, birthday), daughter of Karen & David Leslie

Matthew Bell, Jr. (2013, passing), son of Matthew Bell

8    Tara Celli (2009, passing), daughter of Geraldine Celli

Howard Safir (1969, birthday), son of Lucy & Fred Safir

9    Myrna Quesada (1971, birthday), sister of Mario Quesada

10  Seena Liff (2012, passing), daughter of Eleanor Liff

Kevin Lynch (2012, passing), son of Barbara Lynch

11  Ehlin Puett-Sandberg (2009, passing), daughter of Marla Puett-Sandberg

Joshua Levi (2013, passing), son of Suzanne Levi

Patrick Murphy (1981, birthday), son of Karen Murphy

12  Austin Verville (2008, passing), son of Christine & Matthew Verville

Joey Pignatiello (2012, passing), son of Connie Pignatiello

13  Kevin Goldstein (1968, birthday), son of Jane Shaw

Tysean Thomas (2009, passing), son of Alma Thomas

Richard Barthel (2008, passing), son of Paul & Judith Montelione

Daniel MacDougall (2013, passing), son of Nancy MacDougall

14  Valerie Bedziner (2012, passing), daughter of Lisa Bedziner

Jenna Baron (1995, birthday), daughter of Jean Pignatiello

15  Kevin Goldstein (2005, passing), son of Jane Shaw

Jeffrey Goldsmith (1982, birthday), son of Nancy & Terry Goldsmith, brother of Erica

and Andrew Goldsmith

Jeremy Lee Graham (1985, birthday), son of Jayne Graham

Jason T. Micheline (2013, passing), son of Stephanie Micheline

16  Wayne Lipinski (1964, birthday), son of Sue Lipinski

17  Jeffrey Goldstein (1978, birthday), son of Sharon Cutler

Jennifer Taylor Bell (1994, birthday), daughter of Jane Bell

18  Carol Kestenbaum (2007, passing), daughter of Rita & Ron Kestenbaum

Nicole Schiffman (2007, passing), daughter of Cheryl & Ron Schiffman sister of Lindsey


Maria Gloria Verdile (2007, passing), daughter of Holly Verdile

Vicki Marczak (1977, birthday), daughter of Judith & Ed Marczak

Jonathan Cotromano (1983, birthday), son of Suzanne Cotromano

20  Blakely Kay (1979, birthday), daughter of Barbara Russell

Paul David Faria (2007, passing), son of Gloria Faria

Earnest Montes Jr. (1993, passing), son of Lucy & Earnie Montes

Tyler Heelan (2009, passing), son of Leslie Heelan

Brian Hom (1993, birthday), son of Karen & Jim Hom

21  Marsha Lazar (1957, birthday), daughter of Adrian Lazar

Shauni Ashley Frank (2011, passing), daughter of Christine Sparkman

22  Joshua Shome (1978, birthday), son of Larry & Paula Shome

Taylor Matthews (2008, passing), daughter of Sue Matthews

David Dawson (2009, passing), son of Fran Dawson

23  Joseph Janssen (2008, birthday), son of Mike Janssen

25  David Tauber Wiener (2008, passing), son of Phyllis Wiener

26  Joe Marino (2012, passing), son of Diane Marino

27  Stefanie Rieger (2009, passing), daughter of Andrea & Keith Rieger

28  Morris Lindenbaum (passing), son of Sylvia Lindenbaum

Eric Licursi (2010 passing), son of Donna Licursi, brother of Lorraine Licursi

Daniel Milch (2000, passing), son of Linda Milch

Kenny Klein (2011, passing), son of Sue Klein



COPE Parent Column

February 2014


MARY By Eleni Lazarus in memory of her daughter

I think of you with love today, but that is nothing new.

I thought about you yesterday and days before that too.

I think about you constantly, every minute of every day.

I think of you in silence, I always speak your name,

All I have now are memories and your picture in a frame.

Your memory is my keepsake with which I’ll never part.

It broke my heart to lose you, But you didn’t go alone,

For a part of me went with you the day you left for home.


Distance may separate us, yet I know you’re always near,

It is a dream I cherish, to be with you once again.

I know that wish will come true in time.

But for now, sweet child of mine,

I hold you in my heart

And will never let you go.


Paramahansa Yogananda- as it is so beautiful…




*Published Newsday, Long Island: October 23, 2009


The story of another mother whose irresponsible drinking allegedly caused the death of a child was all over the TV two weeks ago. The police said a woman from the Bronx had crashed her car on the West Side Highway with her daughter and six other young girls on board. An 11-year-old friend of her daughter’s, Leandra Rosado, was killed. They all had been at a birthday party and were heading to the woman’s house for a sleepover.


That any parent would put her own child in danger so recklessly and impulsively is frightening. Witnesses said her toddler’s father had tried to stop her from driving and removed his own son from the car, giving us some insight into how scared he was. But still she drove away with the other children. Nobody pulled any of them, or their driver, out of the car. It makes the children’s parents and guardians look inexplicably helpless.


Sadly, death by car is something I now know. My son, Steven, was killed as a result of a car accident last year. An unlicensed 21-year-old driver, with narcotics in his blood and cans of beer littering his vehicle, according to the San Mateo County coroner and the California Highway Patrol, drove a car borrowed from a relative. Weaving impatiently in slow weekend traffic on a beautiful afternoon in Northern California, he hit one car, and then a second car in which my 30-year-old son was a passenger.


The driver, estimated to have been speeding at about 85 miles an hour, was killed instantly, my son died more slowly at the scene. The accident left my son’s girlfriend with traumatic and life-changing injuries and the subsequent six-car accident left others hurt and shaken. I suspect that the family member who gave this driver the car knew of his drug use – it is believed to have been a long-standing issue – and certainly she must have known that this young man was unlicensed.


As a social worker, I have spoken to many parent groups over the years, long before this happened, and often shared the lesson I learned when Steven started kindergarten. I realized, standing at the bus stop the very first day of school, that he would become less and less dependent on me to keep him safe and much more dependent on others.

The same thought hit me when the soccer coach said, “Don’t worry, you can leave, he’ll be fine” – and the first time my son climbed into someone else’s car to go off to a play date. My children’s safety was now predicated on the good actions of my neighbors and their children. Forays to the mall, the nighttime basketball games at local parks, hot summer days at Jones Beach, would bring all our children together; we had to count on each of them to be smart and careful. We had to count on other adults to drive them back home safely. Whether at college, at clubs, on poorly lit highways, our children’s lives would intersect – in fun, in peace, at work, in love and frighteningly, for thousands of young people each year, in death.


For my children to be safe, I would tell my listeners, I need your children to be healthy. I need you, their parents, to care about what they do, and whom it will impact. My safety and my children’s safety depend on the choices that you and your children make. Every time a family member, a friend, a stranger, looks away when he has knowledge of a drunk or impaired driver, someone’s life is in danger.


I don’t assume that the mother of the thoughtless, careless young man who drove his car as if it were a murder weapon, cries any less than I do; she lost her son, too. But this tragedy didn’t have to happen.


No child should end their life, alone, under a tarp, on a highway. June 21, 2008, was my son’s turn. Oct. 11 was Leandra Rosado’s. Tomorrow it could be your child.


Please share with us your writings about your child. Email Karen Flyer at for more information.


COPE Sibling Column

February 2014


This Month’s Thoughts from Sarah Olsen





Below is a link to a wonderful resource for COPE parents for their grieving teens:


Below is a link COPE parents might find helpful, a guide to resources and referrals to prevent identity theft of deceased children.


We are actively looking for our COPE House, larger space to hold our meetings, house our resources library, and in essence, to be our “home.” If anyone has any personal connections with realtors in the area (preferably on the Nassau/Suffolk border), please email Lillian Julien at


If anyone has any news to share with the group or a poem or inspirational story (to potentially be included in a future newsletter if you wish), please email Karen Flyer at


Also, if you would like to have a picture of your child or sibling posted on the COPE website, please email me a jpeg and we will add it to the children’s page. Also, if you have any foundations for your child, we would happily list those on our website.


COPE Camp Erin

For the Latest News About COPE Camp Erin New York City!

August 2014


Camp Erin New York City, a FREE bereavement camp for children ages 6-17 dealing with a major loss, is scheduled for August 22nd – 24th, 2014, at Camp Wayne, in PA, on the New York State border. For more information on Camp Erin, volunteering, or for registration materials, please email Camp Erin New York City Camp Director Ann Fuchs at or 914-552-6919.


COPE Bowling Event

Thursday, January 30th from 7:00 p.m. – 10:00 p.m.

Bowlmor Long Island (Formerly 300 Bowl) in Melville

Join us for a fun-filled, social event and important fundraiser for COPE – our third Bowling Event on Thursday, January 30th from 7:00 – 10:00 p.m. at Bowlmor Long Island (formerly 300 Long Island Bowl) in Melville, on Route 110 right off the Northern State Parkway.


$65 per person includes 3 hours of UNLIMITED bowling, shoe rental, unlimited Hors d’oeuvres, an ALL YOU CAN EAT Italian dinner buffet, soda, coffee and dessert. Registration materials were mailed earlier this month, and registration is also available on our website by clicking here. Just enter the appropriate multiple of $65 in the donation amount, and indicate in the comments box that this is for the bowling event. All proceeds from the event will go towards funding the programs, groups and workshops upon which our families depend.


Pre-registration is strongly preferred but walk-ins are welcome!


For any questions, please contact Karen Flyer at


South Shore – Parent Support Group Meeting

Merrick Jewish Center

Monday, February 10th at 7:00 p.m. SHARP

Join COPE and social worker Judy Hasnas for our South Shore Parent Support Group meeting on Monday, February 10th at 7:00 p.m. SHARP at the Merrick Jewish Center (in the LIBRARY unless otherwise noted) which is located at 225 Fox Boulevard Merrick, NY. This group meets one Monday evening of the month at this time. Judy Hasnas, LCSW, BCD, has a private practice in Bellmore, New York, and facilitated bereavement groups for parents of fire fighters who were killed on 9/11 as part of the Counseling Service Unit, FDNY.  She also worked as an independent contractor at the Steinway Child and Family Service of Howard Beach and was a social work coordinator at Bellevue Hospital Center.


For more information, please email Karen Flyer at



North Shore – Parent Support Group Meetings

Syosset and Jericho Libraries

Thursday, February 13th at 7:00 p.m. & Thursday, February 27th at 7:00 p.m. SHARP

Join COPE for our North Shore Parent Support Group meeting on Thursday, February 13th at 7:00 p.m. SHARP the Jericho Public Library in Jericho (1 Merry Lane). COPE will once again be joined by Marilyn Kohn, LCSW, a licensed social worker with a private practice specializing in bereavement counseling and individual and family therapy.


The second North Shore meeting will take place on Thursday, February 27th at 7:00 p.m., facilitated by Marilyn Kohn at the Syosset Public Library (225 So. Oyster Bay Road).


For more information, please email Karen Flyer at



North Shore – Monday Night Parent Support Group Meeting

COPE House/Elias Hicks Home in Jericho

Monday, February 10th and Monday, February 24th at 7:30 p.m. SHARP

The Monday night COPE North Shore group will meet this month on Monday, February 10th and Monday, February 24th from 7:30 – 9:30 p.m. This group will also be facilitated by Marilyn Kohn, LCSW, and will be held at the COPE House in Jericho at 1740 Old Jericho Turnpike. For directions, please visit our website at or email Please do not use Mapquest or a navigation system. Any North Shore parents new to COPE should attend this support group meeting as the Thursday group is filled to capacity at this time.


For more information, please email Karen Flyer at



Suffolk County – Parent Support Group Meeting

The Chai Center in Dix Hills

Wednesday, February 12th at 7:00 p.m. SHARP

Please join COPE and social worker Denise Fields for our Parent Support Group in Suffolk County, at the Chai Center in Dix Hills (501 Vanderbilt Parkway). This group meets next on Wednesday, February 12th at 7:00 p.m. Denise has a private psychotherapy practice in Dix Hills, specializing in bereavement.  She previously was a consultant to the Huntington School district, and ran bereavement groups for the Family Service League in Huntington.  The group meets the second Wednesday evening of every month from 7:00-9:00 p.m.


For more information, please email Karen Flyer at



South Shore – East Meadow Parent Support Group

Temple Emanuel in East Meadow

Tuesday, February 18th at 7:30 p.m. SHARP

The East Meadow South Shore Parent Support Group which normally meets the third Tuesday of the month from 7:30 – 9:30 p.m. at Temple Emanu-El (the Family Room) in East Meadow (123 Merrick Avenue) will meet next on Tuesday, February 18th from 7:30 – 9:30 p.m. The group is facilitated by Ed Paley, a licensed clinical social worker for 30 years with significant experience working in the field of bereavement.


For more information, please email Karen Flyer at



COPE New York City Parent Support Group

1177 Avenue of the Americas @46th Street

Tuesday, February 11th from 7:00-9:00pm

Please join COPE and social worker Bridgette Boucher for our New York City parent support group for parents living with the loss of a child. The group meets the second Tuesday of every month at 1177 Avenue of the Americas at 46th Street floor C-2, Suite 0020 from 7:00-9:00 p.m. The group will meet next on Tuesday, February 11th. You must RSVP for this group so that your name can be put on a list for the security guard.


Bridgette is currently a family therapist working with the Sloan Kettering Cancer Center and has a private practice in New York City. She was previously a therapist for the Ackerman Institute for the Family, treating families dealing with grief, substance abuse, domestic violence, trauma and relationship problems. For more information, please email Karen Flyer at or contact Bridgette directly at You must be on an RSVP to be let upstairs in the building.



NEW New York City – COPE Support Groups

Location in Manhattan TBD

COPE plans to further expand its support into New York City with three new support groups. We are actively in the process of identifying space to hold these groups and facilitators. If you are interested in attending any of the following, please email Karen Flyer at


  1. Bereavement Support Groups for Young Widows and Widowers (Ages 49 and Under)
  2. Bereavement Support Groups for Young Siblings (Ages 5-10)
  3. Bereavement Support Groups for Teens (Ages 11-17)



New York City – Young Adult Sibling Group


Saturday, February 22nd at 11:00 a.m.

Please join COPE for our young adult sibling group in Manhattan on Saturday, February 22nd from 11:00 a.m. – 12:30 p.m. The group will be facilitated by licensed social worker Candice Goldberg, and will be held at her office: 215 West 88th Street, Suite 1C, New York City, 10024. Any questions, please call Candice at 212-696-7856.



Long Island – Young Adult Sibling Group

COPE House/Elias Hicks Home in Jericho

Monday, February 17th at 7:00 p.m.

Please join COPE for our young adult sibling group on Long Island on Monday, February 17th from 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. at the COPE House in Jericho. For directions, please visit our website at or email Please do not use Mapquest or a navigation system. The group will be facilitated by licensed social worker Amy Kirschenblatt who has taken over the group from Tracey Sherman. Amy is currently a social worker with North Shore Hospital System/LIJ Forest Hills Hospital PCAP. She was previously a school social worker for the New York City Board of Ed. For more information, please email Karen Flyer at



COPE Teen Sibling Group (11-17)

267 E Main Street, Ste B in Smithtown

Every Other Thursday Evening

On Hiatus

The COPE teen sibling group which normally meets bi-weekly on Thursday evenings with social worker Leslie Arent is now on hiatus. To express interest in this for upcoming sessions, please email Karen Flyer at An intake interview with the facilitator must precede starting with the group for NEW participants.




Loss of Sibling/Loss of Parent Group (For Children Ages 5-10)

COPE House/Elias Hicks Home in Jericho

On Hiatus

COPE plans to start up a general bereavement group for children ages 5-10 who have lost either a sibling or a parent.   The group will be facilitated by a licensed social worker, and will be held at the COPE House in Jericho. Even if your child participated in the young sibling group in the past, he/she is welcome to attend this group. For more information or to express interest in this group, please email Karen Flyer at   Based on interest and availability, we will determine a meeting date and time once the group has been established.



COPE Suicide Survivors Group

COPE House/Elias Hicks Home in Jericho

Tuesday, February 11th from 7:00-8:30pm

If you are a parent who has lost a child to suicide or a sibling who has lost their brother or sister to suicide, please join COPE for our Suicide Survivors Group one Tuesday of every month at 7:00 p.m. at the COPE House in Jericho. The next meeting of the group will be on Tuesday, February 11th from 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. The group is facilitated by social worker and bereaved sibling Tracey Sherman. Tracey lost her brother to suicide in 2004, and has facilitated suicide survivors groups for the Family Service League/ Joe’s Project since 2009.   This is a group for both parents and siblings. For more information, please email Karen Flyer at



COPE Art Therapy Workshop for Parents

Wednesday, February 12th from 12:30-2:30 p.m.

Lilly Julien’s Studio in Huntington

COPE parents please join Lilly Julien for an afternoon of art and creativity (no artistic talent required!) on Wednesday, February 12th from 12:30-2:30 p.m. at Lilly’s home studio in South Huntington, 29 Covington Street. No artistic talent is required!!!! For more information, please email Karen Flyer at


COPE Spiritual Circle

Wednesday, February 19th from 7:30-9:30 p.m.

Lilly Julien’s House in Huntington Station

The NEW monthly COPE Spiritual circle will meet the first Wednesday evening of every month. The next gathering will be held on Wednesday, February 19th from 7:30-9:30 p.m. (RESCHEDULED DATE DUE TO WEATHER) at Lilly Julien’s home in Huntington Station (29 Covington Street). The meetings will be hosted by COPE President and Founder Lilly Julien and author Jerry Weinstock. COPE hopes that all parents interested in spirituality as an integral part of the healing process will attend these monthly get-togethers. Some months will include guest speakers and healers. If you have any questions, please contact Lilly Julien at Since space is limited please RSVP.


Forever Family Foundation offers “Mediums and Messages” every 3rd Thursday Night of the Month at 8:00 p.m. Eastern Time (5:00 p.m. Pacific). The live call in number is toll-free 888-815-9756. For more information, please visit

Over the past few months, COPE has had many gifted facilitators and spiritual leaders who have worked with our group at these meetings. Below is their contact information for those who may be interested in working with them privately:


Paul Alexander, psychotherapist/song writer/social worker:

Christopher Allan, psychic/medium: 516-586-8121,,

Melody Bard, psychic/medium:,, 631-406-6123

Linda Cafiero, yoga, Tai-Chi Chuan, Taoist Qigong, Reiki, Buddhist meditation, mindfulness based stress reduction and life coaching:

Theresa Caputo, psychic/medium: 516-520-6420

Pam Carlton, music therapist: 516-470-3005 x3,

Glenn Dove, psychic/medium, hypnotherapist, past life regression: (516) 223-2567

Amy Elias, personal development trainer: 516-369-3171 or 516-869-3338,

Clyde Friedman, psychotherapist, past life regressionist:

Karen Garvey, psychic/medium:, 866-263-3879

Joe Giaquinto, Medium and Paranormal Investigator,,


Ghislaine Grillo, Danskinetics,, 631-262-7844,


Christine Guardiano, Spiritual Teacher and Healer, 631-673-6092,,


Kim the Happy Medium, psychic/medium:, 516-486-6158,

Karin Marcello, musician/healer, 631-220-5228,

Susan Maxwell Trumble, Guiding Light Therapies, 631-587-5208 or email

Debra Monaco, certified yoga teacher, 516-752-2133,

Donna D. Lipari, psychic/medium, 631-254-8544,

Pat Longo, energy healer and spiritual teacher:,, 516-433-5279

April Owen, massage therapist, sound healer and Reiki master: 631-470-5669

Chayl Ozkaya, Reiki Master/Teacher, EFT Meridian Tapping Practitioner, and massage Therapist, 516-532-7633

Sandy Ricciardi, psychic/medium:, 516-446-1412

Cindi Sansone-Braff, psychic/medium:,

Richard Scheinberg, psychotherapist and expert on past life regression: and, 631-666-1615

Gary Spolansky, Reiki Master, and meditation:,, 516-640-0397

Ellen Stout, Master Intuitive, Brazilian Healer, Hypnotherapist:, 631 513 0132

Judi Talit, Stress Management Educator, Certified Reiki Master and Master Meditation Teacher and Healer,, 516-248-4336

Jara Weiss, certified yoga teacher, Reiki master: Moon Goddess Adventures,, 646-734-5585

Jeffrey Wands, psychic/medium: (516) 883-5959,

Robert Wright, psychic/medium: 516-409-1055,; office# (845)447-1012, for scheduling appointments

Lynn Van Praagh, psychic/medium,


COPE Parent Writing Workshop

“Write, Talk, Read or Listen: The Power of Words in Healing”

Wednesday, February 26th at 7:00 p.m.

COPE House in Jericho

COPE parents who like to use words to describe, contain and make sense of their grief and their experiences, please join social worker and bereaved parent Sandy Wolkoff for our bi-monthly Writing Workshop for Parents. This group will meet on Wednesday, February 26th at 7:00 p.m. at the COPE House in Jericho. For more informaiton, please email Karen Flyer at



Community Events


Please contact Karen Flyer at with any community healing events to list in our newsletter.


COPE Individual Support, or “Buddy System”

For those bereaved parents and siblings not ready for a support group, or who wish to augment their support group experience with individual support, COPE offers a “buddy system.” If you are in need of a buddy (a parent or sibling who shares your particular loss), OR if you wish to act as a buddy to a newly bereaved parent or sibling, please contact Karen Flyer at Peer support is truly at the heart of COPE!


COPE Donations


We thank the following people for making general donations to COPE during the months of (late) December and January 2014:


  • Pamela and Jeffrey Gill
  • Vivien Abrams
  • Ilene & Steve Rosenbaum
  • Andrea & Keith Rieger in memory of Stefanie Rose Rieger
  • Esther & Larry Wynn
  • Nina Sitron in memory of David Joshua Berg
  • Morton Frucht
  • Amy & Gary Julien
  • Barbara Levy
  • Paul G. Broder
  • Mark & Fern Grundleger
  • Michelle Wong
  • Lilly Julien in memory of Michelle Julien and Robert Julien


COPE thanks everyone who made donations to Camp Erin during the months of (late) December and January 2014:


  • Marc Sternberg in honor of Lexi and Marc Sternberg’s wedding
  • Stuart Weiss
  • Lisa Newman Levine
  • Phyllis & Mel Levine in memory of Andrea Levine
  • Stacy & Andrew Kaplan
  • Terri & David Bobrow
  • Herb & Bernice Henig
  • Linda & Ronald Link in memory of Josh Link
  • George P. Kanas
  • Blanche Weiss



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Karen Flyer

Executive Director, COPE

P.O. Box 1251

Melville, NY 11747

Tel: (516) 484-4993, Fax: 516-484-4885