Frequently Asked Questions

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You have taken an important first step in asking for support.  That is oftentimes the toughest thing to do. Once you are ready to seek support from others, you must ask yourself, would you be more comfortable with individual support or group support? If you think a bereavement support group may be right for you, consider the different types of groups available, from general bereavement to the more specific – groups for parents who have lost a child, or even groups for parents who have lost a child to a specific cause, such as suicide or a terminal illness. Even within those types of groups, format can vary from large, structured and more formal to smaller, informal and more intimate.  Think carefully about where you are with your grief and what would feel best for you.  COPE offers both individual, one-on-one support, as well as bereavement support groups for both parents who have lost a child (whatever the cause or age of the child), and for young and adult siblings . For additional support groups, please refer to our Resources and Referrals section of this site. 

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Oftentimes, the best thing you can do for your friend is just to be there for her. To keep her company as she grieves, without necessarily offering any advice or verbal reassurances intended to make her feel better.  Oftentimes, these well-intended remarks can backfire.[/vc_toggle][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/1″][vc_toggle title=”What type of losses have COPE members experienced?” open=”false”]

COPE members consist of the newly bereaved as well as those who are many years along in the grief process. Our bereaved parents have lost young children and older children, and to all types of causes: suicide, motor vehicle accidents, terminal illnesses and acts of nature. If you would like support from someone who has experienced a similar type of tragedy as yourself, COPE can connect you specifically with a current member who shares a similar loss. Or you may bond with someone in particular at one of our support group meetings or art therapy programs based on commonalities in your stories and arrange to connect with each other outside of the group setting. 

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COPE thanks you for your interest in helping our organization. Much is needed in the way of both financial and volunteer support in order for COPE to expand its reach and its programming to help more families living with the loss of a child. COPE’s ultimate dream is for a COPE house which would serve as a home for our members and our programs, a safe place for families grieving over the loss of a child to go to when they need support and healing.

While COPE holds several fund raisers throughout the year, these events alone cannot raise enough to cover the cost of all of our current and planned programming. Your donations are deeply appreciated. To make a tax deductible donation to COPE, please refer to the Support COPE section of the web site.

If you would like to volunteer your time to COPE, please contact COPE’s Executive Director, Karen Flyer, karen@copefoundation.com .  We can always use help with mailings, or at our special events and workshops for our members.