Thanks to COPE Facilitator Marilyn Kohn LMSW for this month’s healing tip.
March 11th 2020 was the beginning of a most difficult year when COVID-19 was declared a pandemic. It has been one of isolation, loneliness, and fear. It complicated the grief process.
April 2021 will hopefully be the beginning of hope and gratitude for all that we still have. Now that we have turned the clocks ahead and the days are longer, we will experience more light than darkness. Flowers will be popping up and the sun will warm our bodies. Spring has arrived.
We have been told that if we have been vaccinated, we can safely see our families and friends in small groups. We will be able to hug our children and grandchildren. Vaccines will be more abundant for all age groups and some restrictions will be relaxed. Hopefully we too can feel less anxious and begin to move forward with caution.
The grief journey is not an easy road to travel and one that you never imagined you would or could. In the beginning you need to keep you loved one very close to you, never wanting to let go. As time progresses and at your own pace, you will be able to have them alongside you and not figuratively blocking your path. You will be able to slowly move forward confident that your love for them will keep your loved one very close and in your heart forever.
Grief is work and is constantly changing. It needs time, patience, and self love. Imagine there is a heavy brick in your pocket. Some days the brick will feel very heavy and other days lighter. You put one foot in front of the other and begin your journey. Go at your own stride and don’t let others dictate to you. There are no “shoulds” only what you feel you can do.
Try different activities and see how you feel. You don’t have to feel obligated to go to family celebrations if you are not ready. YOU, be your own judge. Hoping your brick has more light days. Cope cares and will always be available to you for support.