Healing Tip – March 2023

Recommendations for Books on Grief, Trauma, and Meaning Recently I was asked for recommendations for books on grief, trauma, and how to find meaning through immeasurable sadness and doubt about the future.  Fortunately, a few days later I found myself hosting one...

Healing Tip – February 2023

The “Second Anniversaries” I often hear grieving individuals talk about the difficulty of entering a new year. For the newly bereaved, it is the first year in which they will live without their loved one physically with them. For the rest, it is yet...

Co-Presidents’ Message – February 2023

I think Rob Delaney has been a sensitive, thoughtful, and influential figure relating to grief and loss since he lost his son a few years ago.  I haven’t gotten myself to fully read his new book, but I’ve read and watched multiple interviews and articles about...

Co-Presidents’ Message – January 2023

2023. For some of you, this is the start of the first new year you’re living with the loss of your loved one. For others, this may be your twentieth new year. I remember the start of 2017 – that was my first new year without my older brother. I was so afraid to...

Healing Tip – January 2023

A new year often comes with resolutions with the goal of doing or being “better.”  For 2023, we hope that instead you all resolve to treat yourselves with compassion and kindness, be gentle with your hearts, and reach out for the support you need to cope with...

Parent Column – January 2023

My son His name is Preston Roy Heikkinen “Roy Boy” we lost him July 8, 2021 horrifically. He was the best boy in the whole world. He was the best big brother the best son that anybody could ever ask for. He never entered a room that he wasn’t singing & bopping...

Co-Presidents’ Message – December 2022

Greetings – After a fulfilling Thanksgiving weekend with family and an amazingly impactful #GivingTuesday COPE fundraising drive, I find myself reflecting on the year that is winding down. My first as Co-President of COPE’s board.  The organization’s first...

Healing Tip – December 2022

I was recently scrolling instagram when I saw a quote from therapist and New York Times best-selling author Nedra Glover Tawwab (@nedratawwab).  An expert in family and relationship dynamics, she had this to say about grief:  “There are some things that you...

Co-President’s Message – November 2022

From COPE Co-President Jen Schwartz “Time moved in two directions because every step into the future carried a memory of the past…he had accumulated enough memories to know that the world around him was continually being shaped by the world within him, just as...