“My sister will die over and over again for the rest of my life. Grief is forever. It doesn’t go away; it becomes a part of you, step for step, breath for breath. I will never stop grieving Bailey because I will never stop loving her. That’s just how...
The trees are coming into leaf Like something almost being said; The recent buds relax and spread, Their greenness is a kind of grief. Is it that they are born again And we grow old? No, they die too, Their yearly trick of looking new Is written down in rings...
As a mother, I write about Father’s Day, remembering my children’s father. I am a mother because of him. If not for him, I would not have my precious children. Robert Julien was a great father. He shopped. He carpooled. He cooked. He barbecued. He played...
Living with grief demands courage: the courage to keep living; the courage to learn from our losses; the courage to ask for help when we need it, and to persevere in new directions of healing; and the courage to keep moving through self-defeating thoughts, meeting our...
Tom’s Mom, Janet Shavel writes: As all of us grieve the loss of our children, somehow for me – perhaps others, the date of my son Tom’s birth is a difficult day. My son would have been 45 on April 21st-I...
OUR LOVING SON KENNETH LACKS They say there is a reason, They say that time will heal, But neither time nor reason, Will change the way we feel, For no one knows the heartache, That lies behind our smile. No one knows how many times, We have broken down and...
Most of us functioned fairly competently in our day-to-day lives—holding jobs or going to school, managing families, reading books, taking care of our health, entertaining friends and family—right up until someone we loved stopped living. Instantly we become...
Words from COPE President and Founder, Lillian Julien Dear COPE Families, I was shattered by the loss of my child until I gradually found pieces of myself and strength to move forward. Mother’s Day is a day that I struggle with to find ways to connect with...
My older son, Larry Marcus was killed in an auto accident at college on 4-14-83 at the age of 23 yrs. It happened a few months before he was to get his degree from the Univ. of Georgia. His birthday is Sept 10, 1959. He is gone more years than I want to...
To honor you, I get up everyday and take a breath. And start another day without you in it. To honor you, I laugh and love with those who knew your smile And the way your eyes twinkled with mischief and secret knowledge. To honor you, I take the time to appreciate...
